Have you ever been in a place where you were going to tell someone how you thought they should do something…didn’t get to tell them for whatever reason and then watched what that person did resulting in an even better outcome than you expected? I know that’s a long winded question. Let me put to you this way. Have you ever just let your family or friends do something you thought wouldn’t work out, didn’t saying anything, and then some time later you observed it totally worked out even better than you expected? What did you notice in that experience?
One issue in my face right now is ‘telling people what I think they should do’. Do you ever do that…tell people what you think they should do? I’m talking about these kinds of examples…when your husband feels drawn to go the bank at 10:30am and you stop him saying he should go later when you think it would be best; your children want to take a night class and you talk them out of it because they should maybe get a job first then think about classes; your friend wants to buy a special gift for their friend and you talk them out of it. What about the times you ‘talk yourself out of doing something?’ You are in the grocery store and you really feel like buying butter but you don’t because you think you have lots at home (you get home and there is no butter). Have you ever done that? What did you observe from your experiences?
Think about not trying to change someone’s decision. Do you find that easy to do? If you need to say something is what you have to say for their benefit or for yours? When you want to change someone is it so they feel better or so you feel better? You can’t change someone but you can change how you feel about someone. What you feel is in your energy. What is causing you to get someone to change so you feel better? Where do you have to make the changes so you feel at peace inside?
There is a lot of effort in trying to ‘make’ people do what you want them to do. There is a lot of effort when fighting the process of going inside and resolving whatever may be causing you to react! There is no effort in being at peace with whatever is going on around you.
When people take the ‘judgement, bother or reaction’ out of anything and everything….what is left? Think about that for a minute….when you remove your ‘judgements, bothers or reactions’ from someone or something…what is left? It is within yourself where you will find peace. How will you know?