Play with this thought…when we talk about problems are we aware of what the real problem is?
Recently my husband Jimmy shared this story with me. For a few months now, in the morning on the way to work he asked his Divine to take care of his mom and help take her pain away. Just when the pain was getting better, his mom would hurt herself again. This bothered him. No matter what he did to help her with her pain, it didn’t go away. When we talked about it, I encouraged him to consider looking at the problem underneath the pain.
He started to observe his mom was fine when people were around. As soon as she was alone she would have all kinds of pains. Then one day my husband said to me. ‘On my way to work today, I asked my Divine to bring my mom some friends to keep her company. Today her friend came over and spent the whole afternoon with her. Her friend is going to come over every afternoon to keep her company now.’
I could feel a sense of relief in my husband. His mom wasn’t as bothered about the pain on the days her friend was around. With his mom, what was the pain all about? Was the pain the problem…or was feeling alone the problem?
Do you have problems you have tried to resolve and no matter what you do the problem is still there? Have you considered looking a little deeper to see if there is an underlying issue?
Consider this…it is by our nature that we ‘label’ things as the problem. We might say for example, ‘it’s because he talks to much.’ or ‘it’s because she isn’t part of the family.’ We might also say, ‘of course my knee hurts I just finished running.’ or ‘my stomach aches now that I ate so late in the day (happening at a time when you can’t digest another thought that day.’ We are quick to label why things are happening as they are. What may be causing the problem at the time the problem is showing up?
I invite you over the next while to become aware of what you feel may be the problem. Play with the idea of challenging your first ‘thought’ on what the problem is.
May you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.
I wish you so much inner peace and joy.
Sheila Unique, Certified Relationship Coach