Every new day I learn more about the dynamics in relationships. Today was no exception!
I was talking with one of my daughters. We were chatting about different ways she could connect with her 2 year old son. We talked about how she could take a few minutes and just do what he wants, like pushing his toy cars around the house. In those few minutes of playing with him, she could use her creativity to show him different fun things he could do with the cars. As the little guy goes about exploring the new fun ways of playing, she may find a few minutes of free time for herself.
At one point in the conversation my daughter said she worries about what her daughter is thinking when she as the mom is being with her son. She added that her daughter watches her when she’s playing with him. My response was that her daughter is watching how her mom interacts with the people around her. In those moments of her interacting with the son, her daughter would be observing and learning how to treat her brother. Through her sharing I was reminded of how influential children are at that young age.
I personally feel this learning applies to all of us and contributes to the dynamics in our relationships as adults. What can be learned from watching people interact in relationships? We as children watched our parents and learned how to treat people, just like our children watch and learn from us. Not only do children watch, they listen and hear things as well. As we grow up and experience the different dynamics in relationships we may get a sense of what ‘works or doesn’t work’ when interacting with others. Getting a sense of what doesn’t feel right or what doesn’t work gives us an opportunity to grow. What we do with those opportunities makes all the difference.