This past week I saw the movie, ‘The Upside of Anger’. The show was about a lady who was married to her husband of many years – they had 4 teenage daughters (the youngest was now 15). The husband disappeared one day and his wife thought he left her for another woman. She told everyone that he and his secretary fled the country. The story she created and believed created such a life of hell for her and the 4 daughters. At the end of the show, three years later, she finds out that her husband had fallen into a well and drowned. There is much to learn in that movie – has Kevin Costner in it.
It was something to watch how her story had created such unrest in the family. The children came to believe her story and had so much anger towards their dad for what they learned he had done. The story wasn’t even true. The unrest caused all kinds of problems – body mind and spirit – for everyone involved. Anger and unrest are reactions. Reactions highlight an underlying issue.
Do you ever get ‘lost’ in someone’s story or drama? Are people lost in your story or drama? It can be really easy to do, especially if it is someone close to you.
Energetically speaking, when we hear people talking about what they feel happened or what they believe caused the problem, most people tend to believe whatever is shared. People will say, ‘I have a headache because I ate too much chocolate.’ ‘I didn’t get the job because the boss likes the other person more.’ ‘We didn’t get the house because the loan’s officer doesn’t like to deal with women.’ Whatever the story is – is it the truth?
When you are ‘lost’ in the story/drama, and it doesn’t matter what it is, there is an aspect of you that isn’t found. The daughters in the movie literally lost themselves in the anger the mother was experiencing. The daughters were no longer free to express themselves because of the drama the mother put everyone through…resulting in their addictions and health concerns. Have you ever experienced something like that…doesn’t matter what age?
How does energy play a part in all of this? What you feel about something affects what you say and do! What you feel affects your health and peace of mind.
Consider this….when someone first meets a person they know nothing about, they tend to approach this person with an open mind, so to speak. If they find out things about that person before they meet them – like how that person manipulates others or how they can be conceited – they approach the person for the first time with that information in mind. Will they treat that new person any differently? What do you feel?
Relationships are so interesting; they offer many opportunities to learn and grow. When you are lost….the journey becomes about finding your Self again. It won’t be about anyone else but you and your learning. On some level we are all finding the truth of who and what we are.