Thank you to my most amazing husband for the gift he blessed me with! Allow me to share this everyday life experience with you.
Yesterday, the Universe decided to give me a learning and growing opportunity to walk through. As always, I timed supper so it would be cooked by the time my husband got home from work. Supper was done but there was no husband. It’s not unusual for him to arrive a few minutes late, but this was getting on to 15, 20 minutes and more. I thought while I was waiting I would sweep and wash the hardwood floor in the living room.
As I was washing the floor, thoughts were running through my head about what my husband could be doing…where he was and why he hadn’t even tried to phone me to let me know he was going to be late. I knew he had talked to a gentleman about helping him for a bit, but I’m thinking that couldn’t have taken too long. I kept saying to myself, ‘I’m not going to be bothered about this…I’m not going to react to whatever this is.’ I would let it go. He still wasn’t home.
Still trying to amuse myself, I thought maybe I could see what’s up on facebook…that can eat up a lot of time having fun with friends. Off I went to post a funny thought I had and back to the kitchen I went. Please know by now this had been almost an hour from his expected arrival and in that time period I had many thoughts of getting annoyed or being mad and many times I talked myself out of not reacting!
I was very aware of MY THOUGHTS and MY FEELINGS! I was very aware of what was taking place in me all the while my husband wasn’t home. When I started to feel annoyed about him not calling, I kept saying to myself, ‘there is nothing to react to; I’m not going to react.’ All of a sudden…and I mean all of a sudden, after 1 and ½ hours later…it came to me!!!
My husband was at the doctor’s office! He had made such a point of letting me know this the night before and then he called me again at lunch time that day. He went out of his way to let me know he would be late for supper. As soon as that realization came to me, my husband called within minutes. The first words out of my mouth were, ‘how come I’m the luckiest woman in the world to have you?’ He lovingly let me know he was on his way home.
How do our reactions affect our rational logic, reasoning and intuition? If I would have reacted by getting mad thinking he was being inconsiderate – freaking out all over him when he called me, it could have created a not so great feeling in our relationship. By working with my reactions, I was able to stay in a peaceful loving state.
When we are in a state of non-reaction, a peaceful calm state, we can flow with what is. We are open to allowing information to come to us instead of clouding that information over with reaction type stuff from the mind. I’ve referred to this by saying, ‘when we clear our reactions, it’s like the fog lifts and we see with clarity.’
Looking at this from both sides…from the side of my husband – he did everything he needed to do to let me know he would be late. He then went about his day doing what he needed to do. From my side – I was aware of my reactions and in walking through them, I stayed in a place of not being bothered. My intuition brought me the information I needed to know. Did I have thoughts of him getting into an accident and not being able to phone…you bet I did. Did I have thoughts about getting mad at him and not eating with him…you bet I did. All the thoughts I had were just that….thoughts. I didn’t give them power and I didn’t make them right or wrong. My husband showed up happy as ever, totally oblivious to the process I had gone through.
I highlighted above being aware of my thoughts and my feelings because my journey is about me and how I feel, just like your journey is about you and how you feel. I am responsible to be aware of my feelings and how they affect me. I allowed my feelings to come up and I also allowed them to leave without moving me into a not so great place. I knew the whole time it was about me and wasn’t about my husband and what I perceived he was doing. He was the perfect messenger for me. A messenger that offers me much greatness. It was an amazing experience; one that ended in much self love.
Have you ever experienced that yourself?