Do you remember as a child using different strategies to get things you really wanted? You may have batted your eyes and got to ride your bike for an extra hour. You may have whined and snivelled getting your own room at last. Did you ever bride your sister or brother not to tell on you? What about paying your sister to clean your room so you could go out with your friends? If you had a big family, I’m sure you got creative! Now that you are grown up, do those same strategies still work when trying to get what you want?
It has been my experience, whining and snivelling doesn’t work when talking to a loans officer. Batting my eyes doesn’t work anymore when trying to get out of a parking ticket. The paying money thing does still have merit at times! I don’t think I’m alone when it comes to having to change the way I do things.
There is more to ‘getting what you want’ than meets the eye. Your energy plays a huge part in determining the outcome of any situation. If you ‘expect to get what you want’, people will feel it. If you have any hesitation with what you want, people will feel that hesitation and uncertainty. Believe it or not, they may not know you are feeling hesitant but they will sense something ‘doesn’t feel right’ about going ahead with the deal.
Yes, your energy communicates louder than you know. You only have to become aware of what you are feeling, become real with those feelings and then move into a place of clearing the blocks that are preventing you from getting what you want. Now that you are grown up, there are wonderful new strategies available for you to consider. What has worked for you?