Conflict Within Ourselves

Woman deep in thoughts looking out the window

Have you ever noticed there’s times when no matter what choice we make, it feels like we’re facing some kind of conflict inside? We choose one thing and we’re not happy. We choose another thing and we’re not happy. How do we find our way to feeling more at peace inside?

A wonderful friend of mine had hired a company to remove the excess snow they had piled up in their yard. They agreed to a price and the company began removing the snow.

After the job was done the company realized they had under quoted the price and asked my friend for more money. The new information woke up the mental chatter leaving my friend with a feeling of conflict inside.

Do they pay or not? If they do pay more money…there was conflict. If they didn’t pay more money…there was conflict. It they decide to share the extra cost with the company…there was conflict.

Their situation demanded a quick decision which they eventually did make. All that was left for them to do was to move through the conflict and find their way to accepting the choice they made.  

There’re going to be times when we easily make decisions and feel good about them. Then there’ll be times when it’s hard to make a final decision just because of who or what’s involved. That’s when it appears we’ll have conflict no matter what choice we make.

How do we move through the conflict?

The important thing is to recognize when there’s conflict we need to look deeper into what else is influencing how we feel and why we’re in this position of feeling conflicted.

The choices we make challenge things like self-acceptance, self-love and self-care. They nudge our inner growth related to having greater trust in the unfolding of how we chose to handle things that day.

Every experience offers us the opportunity to consider there could be life lessons or past karmas involved. We'll have a life lesson, especially if we're continually dealing with the same problem over and over. Past karmas...well sometimes we just have to balance the scales, so to speak, from our past experiences in this life and others. There’ll be some kind of learning and growth on our part.

Somewhere through all the conflict we do need to find our way to feeling at peace with the choices we made, regardless of what they are.

Remember when we have problems that are difficult to resolve, other people may downplay what we’re experiencing. Why? Because it’s not their problem to resolve. The same goes for us. We look at the problems of others and wonder why problem solving is so difficult for them. Difficulty, regardless of who’s experiencing it, indicates there’re invisible influences impacting the decision-making process. Having greater awareness helps us all move forward.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find your own truth…find what works for you… and you’ll always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Emotional Intelligence Specialist