After coaching two people in a row for the same challenge I wanted to share this concept with you!
One lady asked me to help with her relationship with her husband. Her attraction to him was becoming less and less. This wasn’t about him as her husband. I could feel she was bothered about the ‘image’ she had of him.
One of the things this lady was bothered about had to do with her husband’s weight. When I heard this I shared with her how that was one thing bothering her about herself! For a while now she was expressing her dissatisfaction towards herself for putting on extra pounds.
Then I helped her to see some of the things she loved about herself. For example, this lady loves her eyes and her hair. She also loved her husband’s eyes and hair. She started to see the unrest she was feeling with her husband was also unrest she had towards herself.
Another lady asked me for help with the relationship with her husband. She was upset because he wasn’t being positive and was acting increasingly depressed. As much as she tried to help him, he wasn’t willing to do things to change.
We talked about how she had been working with herself for those same challenges. What was still bothering her? She shared how she would catch herself cutting herself down for not being positive.
I talked about how she was ok with her husband’s physical features and his strong business sense. She was not okay with his emotional state.
What am I showing you as the reader?
Most often the things that bother you about the people around you may be something you find hard to be with inside yourself! This commonly happens with spouses and family members. You will have judgment relating to whatever the person is or isn’t doing.
Consider this…whenever you find you can’t accept something in another person, the thing you can’t accept will surface in the form of dissatisfaction within yourself.
Being aware of what you are experiencing is important. People around you are instrumental in guiding you to feelings you have inside yourself. Inside yourself is where the change takes place moving you even closer to loving yourself.
I invite you to find your own truth in what I share today…..
Sheila Unique, Transformation Coach