A while ago I was blessed to work with a 13 year old boy…I will call him Tim. Tim was starting to be very angry around home. There were things he wanted and wasn’t getting them. He was brought to me to help him with his emotions.
When I asked Tim if he ever gets mad about anything…he shared with me how he is mad because he can’t get any money from his mom to play hockey. Tim went on to say he plays the position of goalie and he needed money to play goalie. He was very particular to use those words. As Tim was talking with me, I could feel his anger towards his mom because she wasn’t giving him the money he needed to play hockey!
Now to a 13 year old…that was his perception. He needed money and that money was to come from his mother. As I helped him clear his emotions…I started talking with Tim about the concept of money. I told Tim he didn’t need money to play hockey! He just looked at me!
I told Tim he could play hockey all he wanted…he didn’t need money to play hockey. If he had a pair of skates he could play. I needed to approach his situation like this because he was so locked in his mom being the problem. It was like his mom didn’t give him money and now he couldn’t have what he wanted!
I went on to explain…Tim needed goalie equipment if he wants to play as a goalie on a team. How could HE maybe help get that goalie equipment? I opened his mind up to other ways he could get that goalie equipment. For example, I mentioned to him it was summer time…a time when he could maybe do some yard work for people in his neighborhood earning some money to pay for part of his goalie equipment. That idea hadn’t even crossed his mind because he was so caught up in being mad at his mom. To Tim…a 13 year old boy…he couldn’t see his role in making things happen for himself. All he could see was his mom needs to give him money to do things.
It was enlightening session with Tim. I could feel in Tim’s perception ‘money gets what he wants.’ If he can’t get the money from mom…he can’t get anything. Yes and no! I guided him to see he needs to put in effort to get what he wants….it may only take mowing lawns for two months; it may take helping in the community somehow; it may take a fund raising project to get his goalie equipment. Most of all I encouraged him to be open to other ways of ‘getting’ money…or seeing how he could manifest what he wanted! Tim was starting to feel more empowered about himself and less angry towards to his mom.
For all of us….being so focused on needing money to get what we want….can tend to leave us disempowered! The never-ending thought of needing money! If we start to look at what we could do – to get us the money – it almost takes the money and brings it into FORM! For example, you may need to work one extra half a day of overtime…to buy that dress you’ve been looking at. You may only need to sell that extra piece of equipment laying around the house…to buy the year pass for your gym membership. Bring your ‘wants and desires’ to life…into form! Then watch the magic happen.
Play with that thought. I would love to hear from you!
Sheila Unique, Relationship Coach/Intuitive