Have you ever had one of those days where you were having a great day and all of a sudden something happened where you were instantly bothered? In those moments of shifting your perception from feeling good to being bothered, what transpired? What caused you to react?
As easily as a quick shift in your perception can take you to a state of reacting, a quick shift in your perception can take you to a state of non-reaction. How is that possible?
The moment you react, your reactions indicate that there is conflict within yourself. Was it something that was or wasn’t said; something that was or wasn’t done? Conflict is a sign of an underlying issue, and your issue will not be what you think it is. Allow me to explain further.
Let’s say you and your partner are sitting on the couch and the children are running around fighting with each other. You’ve had a hard day at work and you feel your partner should get up to stop the children from fighting. A shift in your perception moves you to a place where you now become annoyed. Your reaction is the annoyance. The conflict has to do with your partner not taking care of the children. The underlying issue may have to do with you not being able to control the children or your partner. The issue may have to do with you not being able to sit and relax like your partner can. The fact that is bothering you shows you that you have something to work through for yourself. What could it be? Somehow you are not at peace with what is going on. When you clear whatever is causing you to become annoyed, you will no longer react in that situation. You will know you have walked through that issue when you think about that situation and you feel at peace.
To change how you feel is to change your reactions. The shift in your perception will come when you find the cause of your issue. The changes come from within your Self, not from changing the people or situations around you. No matter what happens, you truly can find peace within.