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Caught Up in What Others Do?

August 8, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

I remember years ago the transition I personally went through when it came to problem solving. I tried to get the people outside of me to make changes and that would somehow magically make the problems go away!

I tried to make my dad to stop yelling at my mom. Every time he yelled in my presence I got mad and yelled at him to stop. To me if he stopped yelling I wouldn’t have to get mad. Back then it didn’t occur to me to look inside myself to see why I was reacting to what he was doing!

It can be pretty easy to get caught up in what other people are doing, especially if it makes you upset. You tend to think they are the reason why you get upset.

Check in with your life as it is right now. Do you find you get upset about different things? For example, your sibling is always telling you what to do and it’s starting to aggravate you. Your partner/spouse continues to come home from work upset taking it out on the family. You don’t even feel like staying home anymore. Issues with your children are starting to irritate you. Can you relate to any of those?

I have clients who get caught up in the anger of another person. I guided them to think of that anger and notice what was going on inside. For example, anger from another person can cause you to shut down, can make you want to run and hide or make you want to leave altogether. Any one of those can be very disempowering. Feeling disempowered was the issue that client worked through. They got to a place where they could deal with anger from anyone and still stay empowered.

Think of a problem you are dealing with right now. Maybe you’re finding it hard to resolve.

Resolve the conflict inside yourself FIRST! Then show up more empowered to deal with problems in your life!

Another client got caught up in the judgments of others making them wrong for what they did. The grudge they held started to manifest as heart burn. The transformation in this client healed not only their physical body but their relationships with others.

If you do get caught up in what others do, notice how it takes your attention and focus away from yourself. Then from there you can make an effort to take your attention back inside yourself. It will be inside yourself you find resolution. What is causing you to feel what you do? What is the pain you are feeling inside?

Resolve inside what you don’t like in relationships first then show up more powerfully to bring about the required changes for your relationships to flourish!

For me, I would leave my parents home so mad because of dad’s yelling. I got caught up in thinking yelling wasn’t nice and he shouldn’t be doing it. I did what I could to make the yelling in their home stop. That was not helping me to resolve the conflict I was feeling inside myself. I realized if I wanted to feel better…I needed to make the changes inside. When I did, I could stay present when my dad was yelling and it didn’t affect me at all. That totally changed my relationship with my dad!

This is totally possible for you in your life now! To heal your relationships, to resolve your problems. When you find yourself getting upset in some way, ask yourself questions which lead you to resolve the upset inside. Questions like, ‘what made you so mad in that moment? Why do you keep getting angry like that?’ Your intention in asking is to go inside yourself! You are the one feeling the upset.

When you go inside, pay attention to three things:

thoughts running through your head (what are you saying to yourself);
emotions you are feeling (can be a combination of emotions);
physical body sensations like pain, aches, tension, etc (these draw you back into yourself)

The Universe continually communicates with you in support of helping you resolve the unrest or conflict inside.

Do you find you spend a lot of time and energy trying to get the people outside of you to make changes? Will that somehow magically make your problems go away? I invite you to consider The Unique Approach to resolving problems. You will always be rewarded for doing your inner work.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Transformation Coach, Physical Intuitive

Seeing a Boulder as a Boulder!

May 25, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

What….a boulder as a boulder? Of course a boulder is a boulder. It sure is until a person who is afraid of climbing and afraid of heights has to cross over the boulder. The thought of climbing up and over the boulder brings up so much fear. The boulder all of a sudden becomes this huge monster. Can you relate to something like that in your life?

This past weekend I saw the huge monster in my life! Sharing this may help you along your journey.

I want to empower the children through teachers in the school system. To get to those teachers I’ve been told I have to go through the school board. Up to now, I haven’t had much success with that. All I could see was this huge ‘boulder’ in front of me.

Feeling frustrated I put forward a question to a coach I was blessed to talk with. I said, ‘How do I get ‘past’ the school board or the school association to work with the teachers? Can you share some light on that for me to see this differently and move forward?’

The coach replied, “Great question! It is not about getting “past” the school board or association. It is about making them your biggest cheerleaders so that you get ALL the teachers not just one at a time.”

As soon as I read those words I started to cry. I always talk about shifting your perception. Well this was one of those shifts for me. I can now see the boulder as a boulder.

What I was feeling with the school board was like a block for me. Behind that block was a lot of emotion that needed to be cleaned up in order to move forward with what I want to do. I knew the cleaning took place. The answer to all my questions about ‘how’ came into my consciousness and the tears were my way of releasing in that moment! My journey continues.

What are you struggling with in your life right now? What or who has become your boulder?

Usually when there is a ‘boulder’ you can feel a heavy-ness about you. That boulder represents your blocks. Those blocks are expressed in the form of reactions which involve emotions. Over time you lose sight of what the real problem is. The problem isn’t outside of you. The problem is inside.

Reactions which are not ‘cleaned up’ will continue to surface again and again causing you more problems than you know! For example, problems with your health, finances, relationships and more. Fix one problem and something else breaks! The problems surface from your energy inside. The interesting part around your energy inside…a lot of that energy isn’t even yours!

Wouldn’t it be freeing to know how to clean that up?

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker, Energetic Coach

Hard Shells a Gift

January 10, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

Today I was talking with a client who I will refer to as Martha. Martha shared how she feels she has a hard shell and wanted to work some more on letting the shell go. Recently she said something to someone and wasn’t feeling good about what she said. That was part of the ‘hardness’ she referred to. As we continued to talk, Martha mentioned her company may be making changes to her job. She went on to share she has some issues with her new boss. Once she started to talk about what she was experiencing the emotions were building. All of a sudden she recognized her boss had said some things to her that weren’t nice. She could feel her boss had what she called a hard shell. Martha cried.

There it was….the Universe had brought this new boss to her to help her heal something inside herself! The new boss was not someone she could just ignore. He was in her face at the time she wanted help healing that hard shell she was feeling in herself! In no time the issues Martha had towards her boss had totally changed. She had a greater respect for him, felt more empowered and ready to move through the changes ahead of her.

The Universe will always support you on your journey! Whatever you are moving through, I invite you to consider how the Universe puts people, things and situations in your path – not as a punishment – but as a gift to help you resolve and heal whatever you may be moving through at that time. People may need to ignite charges within you to help you to get to your issue easily. That is where the healing takes place inside.

May you find what works for you and find your own truth as you journey forward in life.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

Question What You Know! See your Challenges with Renewed Awareness

January 9, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

As we head into 2017, I invite you to do some soul searching. I invite you to question in your own heart information you have come to ‘know’ about things like your health, relationships and even finances. What prompted this?

So many of my clients have been stepping forward talking about different medical tests they have had and the results that surprised them. For example, last week one lady went through a procedure where they scoped her stomach. The procedure took only a few minutes and the most amazing thing about it was she got pictures of her esophagus, stomach and duodenum. These parts looked healthy and strong. The doctor was pleased. When the lady was sharing her pictures she made the comment about how pink and healthy everything looked, even though she smokes.

Another client was talking about all the ongoing issues she’s had with her gallbladder. Her last gallbladder attack put her in the hospital where she thought for sure she would be having her gallbladder removed. To her surprise, the medical team told her she only had an infection and because the gallbladder wasn’t swollen at all they weren’t going to remove it!

Another client has what could be explained as Irritable Bowel Syndrome. Whenever he is stressed and worried about something, he has so many bowels movements. As soon as he eats he’s in the washroom a numbers of times in a day. That’s whenever he eats. This gentleman went for colonoscopy. To his surprise the inside of his bowels were a bright pink! He was told there was nothing wrong with his bowels.

All of these people thought something was really wrong with their body parts. Back and forth to the doctors they would go. Could you imagine what must have been going through their minds to learn there wasn’t anything wrong with their physical parts?

Are you in a place where you know something is ‘wrong’ about your physical body, people or situations in your life? Maybe you know something is wrong with your stomach. Maybe you know that person is wrong for your son/daughter. Maybe you know your aging parents are in the wrong place. Are they really wrong?

I invite you to consider this. What you perceive is painful may not be what you have come to ‘know’ it is. You may think pain is physical indicating something is really wrong….is it? There are so many times I work with people who come to a session with pain in their physical body. When they leave that pain is gone! Pain is not only physical!

Pain is preceded by a thought…and that thought involves mental and emotional pain which can manifest in the physical body as pain. Given the right tools, any pain can be brought to a state of calm and healing.

Are things as bad as you think they are? This year I invite you to really question what you think you ‘know’ about something. I’m talking in all areas of your life. Where you think something isn’t right or not good for you and even the others in your life…I invite you to step back and re-visit your perceptions. Like others in my life, you may be pleasantly surprised to find what you came to know as being true isn’t true at all. Life becomes a little more interesting every new day.

May you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

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