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Contracting or Expanding?

October 30, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

I heard a very interesting fact. By having a straight spine you add 10-15 years on to your life. Have you ever thought about your spine like that? What do you think influences how straight your spine is?

I’ve been talking about thoughts lately. Think of the thousands and thousands of different thoughts you have in just one day. Let’s consider the different thoughts and how they may influence the spine:

Thoughts you may not even be aware you’re thinking:

You’re out driving your vehicle. You look over at another car driving by and think, I love the color of that car! Maybe you think, ‘Wow that truck looks shiny clean; oh yeah I better get my vehicle washed too.’ You see an ad on TV for a food product and think you should add that item to your grocery list.
These kinds of thoughts quickly pass through your mind as you go about your day. They come and go. You may not even think about them again. Some thoughts may cause you to feel good and some may cause you to feel drained.

Thoughts which are uplifting and energizing:

You’re excited about buying the gift for your best friend and can’t wait to give it to them. You got the promotion and you’re sharing the news with everyone. The renovations you did in the home turned out great and you are really proud of the choices you made.
These kinds of thoughts are fun to have and can be very uplifting! They cause you to open up…lift up…and expand your energy outwards. Overtime you feel a ‘light’ feeling which is energizing!

Thoughts which are judgmental and of a negative tone:

Your spouse hasn’t been cleaning up after them self lately. Everywhere you look you see signs that your spouse continues to depend on you to clean up after them. People at work don’t fill the photocopy paper when it’s empty. Bugs you to think every time you go to the copier you have to fill the paper tray. You’re trying to talk with parents about a change in your classroom and parents aren’t returning your calls. You find that very stressful. You need to make a decision at work and no one can agree on anything. It frustrates you to even think of making the decision.
These kinds of thoughts don’t feel so great. They cause you to contract and pull inwards. Overtime you feel a ‘heavy’ feeling which drains your energy leaving you to feel more tired than normal.

On your journey you will have all kinds of thoughts. All kinds of thoughts impact your physical body, in particular the strength of your spine.

Consider this…

Think of being with people you enjoy! What kinds of thoughts would you have? Maybe you’re excited to find out what’s new with them…it’s like you have all the time in the world to listen to what they have to say. Maybe you notice you’re a little more creative, accepting and content around them; you’re a little more satisfied and fulfilled. You might even find you could spend all day with them and still have lots of energy.
Think of being with people you don’t like. What kind of thoughts would you have? Maybe you’re more judgmental or even critical of what they say or do in their life. Maybe you find it hard to listen to them. Maybe you notice yourself wanting to leave as soon as you are in their presence.

There are people you enjoy…and then there are people you don’t like. Life will continually introduce both kinds of people into your life. This isn’t about getting rid of the people you don’t like! This is about self awareness because self awareness leaves you in an empowered place.

If you start to pay attention to any thought you will observe the following:

Some thoughts cause you to physically contract and pull inwards. When contracting and pulling inwards you may observe feeling drained. Feeling drained does energetically pull down on the spine.
Some thoughts cause you to physically put your shoulders back and open up your chest like you are feeling uplifted. When feeling uplifted that is when you truly feel alive and energized. Feeling alive and energized does energetically lift the weight off the spine.

Knowing that, is it true a straighter spine adds years onto your life? One or two days…one or two years may not make much of a difference. But over time the physical body will let you know. What do you think?

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship and Self Empowerment Expert!

Praying for Relief?

September 20, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

There has been so much unrest in the world with all the hurricane activity taking place. If you are affected by the unrest, I couldn’t even begin to imagine how this may be impacting you and your family. Is the Divine showing us something through these hurricanes?

I receive a newsletter from Sheevaun Moran, a business advisor, master coach and energy thought leader. Sheevaun was talking about the hurricanes and said this, “Water is a symbol of purification and heart. Water is about emotions and what we are doing emotionally. Without water we would perish and yet when our emotional conditions are filled with pain, distrust and animosity from too many sides then water has a lot to say. Maybe the waters of the earth are saying something important about the value of connection and collaborations and caring for others above the discord. We are truly “all one” when it counts.”

Those words really spoke to me. People have been donating money in support of the victims of these storms. The support has been immeasurable and continues to show up in more ways than just financial. This is a beautiful way to support and care for one another in the world. Caring that may not always show up the same for those closer to home.

Sometimes it’s not always easy to support and care for those around you. That is part of the ups and downs in life. But taking the opportunity to donate for the relief of others can be one way of receiving relief in return. Have you ever thought of that? What you give out will come back to you. This is another application of what that could look like. We all make the world go round.

This concept of giving to help others experience relief makes me think of a saying Morgan Freeman said on the show Evan Almighty (2007). In this movie, Morgan plays the part of God. God says, “Let me ask you something. If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prayed for courage, does God give him courage, or does he give him opportunities to be courageous? If someone prayed for the family to be closer, do you think God zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings, or does he give them opportunities to love each other? How do we change the world? One Act of Random Kindness.”

I invite you today to consider anything you do which offers relief in some way for another…that relief will make a difference not only for another but for yourself as well.

I would like to give a shout out for an amazing charity Sheevaun is a part of. It’s called ‘Create a Bright Life’ http://createabrightlife.org . For many years her charity has been giving and serving those in need in the western states. How perfect to have that resource available now for the victims of the current hurricanes.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert, Master Problem Solver!

Caught Up in What Others Do?

August 8, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

I remember years ago the transition I personally went through when it came to problem solving. I tried to get the people outside of me to make changes and that would somehow magically make the problems go away!

I tried to make my dad to stop yelling at my mom. Every time he yelled in my presence I got mad and yelled at him to stop. To me if he stopped yelling I wouldn’t have to get mad. Back then it didn’t occur to me to look inside myself to see why I was reacting to what he was doing!

It can be pretty easy to get caught up in what other people are doing, especially if it makes you upset. You tend to think they are the reason why you get upset.

Check in with your life as it is right now. Do you find you get upset about different things? For example, your sibling is always telling you what to do and it’s starting to aggravate you. Your partner/spouse continues to come home from work upset taking it out on the family. You don’t even feel like staying home anymore. Issues with your children are starting to irritate you. Can you relate to any of those?

I have clients who get caught up in the anger of another person. I guided them to think of that anger and notice what was going on inside. For example, anger from another person can cause you to shut down, can make you want to run and hide or make you want to leave altogether. Any one of those can be very disempowering. Feeling disempowered was the issue that client worked through. They got to a place where they could deal with anger from anyone and still stay empowered.

Think of a problem you are dealing with right now. Maybe you’re finding it hard to resolve.

Resolve the conflict inside yourself FIRST! Then show up more empowered to deal with problems in your life!

Another client got caught up in the judgments of others making them wrong for what they did. The grudge they held started to manifest as heart burn. The transformation in this client healed not only their physical body but their relationships with others.

If you do get caught up in what others do, notice how it takes your attention and focus away from yourself. Then from there you can make an effort to take your attention back inside yourself. It will be inside yourself you find resolution. What is causing you to feel what you do? What is the pain you are feeling inside?

Resolve inside what you don’t like in relationships first then show up more powerfully to bring about the required changes for your relationships to flourish!

For me, I would leave my parents home so mad because of dad’s yelling. I got caught up in thinking yelling wasn’t nice and he shouldn’t be doing it. I did what I could to make the yelling in their home stop. That was not helping me to resolve the conflict I was feeling inside myself. I realized if I wanted to feel better…I needed to make the changes inside. When I did, I could stay present when my dad was yelling and it didn’t affect me at all. That totally changed my relationship with my dad!

This is totally possible for you in your life now! To heal your relationships, to resolve your problems. When you find yourself getting upset in some way, ask yourself questions which lead you to resolve the upset inside. Questions like, ‘what made you so mad in that moment? Why do you keep getting angry like that?’ Your intention in asking is to go inside yourself! You are the one feeling the upset.

When you go inside, pay attention to three things:

thoughts running through your head (what are you saying to yourself);
emotions you are feeling (can be a combination of emotions);
physical body sensations like pain, aches, tension, etc (these draw you back into yourself)

The Universe continually communicates with you in support of helping you resolve the unrest or conflict inside.

Do you find you spend a lot of time and energy trying to get the people outside of you to make changes? Will that somehow magically make your problems go away? I invite you to consider The Unique Approach to resolving problems. You will always be rewarded for doing your inner work.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Transformation Coach, Physical Intuitive

Holding on for his life!

May 8, 2017 By Sheila Unique 1 Comment

Over two weeks ago my brother Mark had a kidney transplant. He was experiencing some challenges. My husband and I took our mom to visit him. The trip was two and a half hours each way.

When we got to the hospital we found Mark in a place where he didn’t have much strength to even get out of bed. His eyes were so puffy. I was quite shocked to see him like that! For the first while I was blessed to be able to sit and talk with Mark, as my sister-in-law sat with my husband and our mom in the visiting room.

I asked Mark a lot of questions about what he thought was preventing him from going home. We talked for quite a while. It appeared Mark had lost his way. I helped him to shift his perception and bring about strength inside. Miracles started to show up while we were there.

One miracle was when I found his secondary urinary tube was totally twisted preventing the release of urine. He had thought his new kidney wasn’t working properly. I helped him to consider there are times when problems come from ‘outside’ of us, not always from the inside.

Another miracle showed up when he needed the support of a catheter to help eliminate the backup of urine. Mark had experienced so much pain thru a previous episode of inserting the catheter and he was upset about having to go through it again. We talked about the changes taking place within him and to not fight the healing process. When the nurses put the catheter in, they told Mark they were done! He hadn’t even felt it. He was so relieved there was no pain he just cried from with joy! I even had tears myself. I shared with Mark the fact that he had no pain was also a sign of the healing and changes taking place within.

When we left that day, Mark had no swelling around his eyes and had a beautiful color to his skin. Our visit all together as a family was amazing. It was a trip worth taking.

As I write this, Mark is going home soon. We all are so grateful for all the prayers, blessings and grace he has been receiving from all over the world. For all your prayers for Mark, on behalf of all our family I thank you so much.

My brother Mark is one example of how we can lose our focus in times when things become really hard for us to deal with. Think about that for yourself. Something challenging comes up for you and after so long things get to the place where it’s really hard to keep going. This can be a separation/divorce; can be the loss of a loved one; can be a layoff/fired from a job. If it takes a ‘long’ time to bring about resolution inside you can lose sight of what is taking place and how that is serving you.

Some examples of how losing focus can show up in your life:

you don’t see how your body can heal itself;
you don’t think you’ll ever be able to turn your finances around;
that special someone you want in your life doesn’t exist;
everything is hopeless, why even try anymore.

Being in a space like that indicates you have got to the place where you are caught up in all the mental and emotional noise going on inside. Things don’t even make sense anymore. What have you really lost sight of? What could help you to move through that?

Clarity and focus are often ‘clouded’ by something going on deep inside. To move through that can be an enlightening process; a process which gently guides you to shift your perception and find your inner strength. I work with that.

Life experiences are about learning and growing which results from moving through each moment of your day. As you move through your challenges no longer become challenges and you start to feel a sense of calm inside.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

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