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Making Decisions or Taking Action?

April 12, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

There has been a lot of talk lately about people finding it hard to make decisions. So many times people have made a decision about something and for some reason they haven’t acted on their decision. Is this about making decisions or is it about taking action?

I know a lady who was so excited to start her new job. After a couple of days into the new job she got her first assignment which involved doing some writing. This lady was trying to write something and couldn’t think of a thing to write. She asked me to help her clear some of the blocks she was feeling. We were talking for a few minutes and the blocks were clearing. Her energy was different. Then I said, “Start writing something. You can only correct and grow from something already down on paper!” She said that was what she needed to hear. Was her situation about making a decision on what to write? Was it about taking action and having something to work with?

Another lady I know had been living with some friends. She knew now was the time to find her own place. She felt she was having a hard time deciding on the move and wanted me to help her with decision making. I asked her if this was about decision making or about taking action. For her, the decision had been made. Now it was time to take action. Once she saw that we started clearing the blocks around her taking the action she needed to make the move.

When it comes to major decisions there is a process you must go through. For example, you decide it’s time to get your own place. The next logical step would be to find the place you want to live in. Once you have that place, then you can start to move in the direction of furnishing your place. You can only work on moving into your new place when you have the place to move into! It is in the forward action that the Divine can help you in wonderful ways.

What would happen if you decided to find your own place and the first thing you did was put all your time and energy into buying furnishings. How would you know what to buy if you don’t know where you will be living? Someone may ask you to house sit their home for six months. You may run across an old friend who invites you to travel overseas for a few months. Then what would you do with all your new furnishings? It may not be beneficial to spend hours of time and energy worrying about all the furnishings you will need when you don’t actually have the new place picked out.

Is fear involved when it comes to taking action? Yes and no depending on what it is! You can talk and talk about decisions you’ve made. You can even change your minds about decisions you’ve made. What really matters is taking the action on those decisions.

I remembered when I first started writing my best-selling book, Quick Shifts. I was literally sitting in front of my computer with tears running down my face. I couldn’t move! Eventually I asked for help to move through the blocks I was feeling. My niece said to me, ‘Aunty, you have writer’s block!’ To which I replied, ‘If that is what writer’s block is, I could feel every bit of it.’ Did it make it any easier for me to write? Not at all, but I did start writing.

When you look at what is going on in your life right now have you made decisions you need to take action on? If you’ve made the decision and yet you continue to be focused on needing to make a decision that can be a huge waste of time and energy. It is more beneficial to direct that time and energy into taking action to move forward on that decision. It would be wonderful to hear from you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert
Trainer & Speaker

Motivated or Inspired?

February 23, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

Every person I work with opens up a new conversation for learning and growing. I wish I could write everything I learn about relationships in a day! People excite me and inspire me to share from my heart. My passion for learning…and sharing continues!

When I was at the Global Influence Summit in Florida this month one of the thought leaders talked about the difference between motivation and inspiration. They summed it up in these few words. Simply put ‘motivation’ comes from outside of us and ‘inspiration’ comes from within us! How cool is that!

When I think back years ago to my days of being on the Weight Watchers diet to lose weight, I was literally motivated by the weigh scale. I wanted ‘the scale’ outside of me to tell me I was eating on program and I was going to lose weight. I can’t even say if I was inspired from within at the time.

Now when I think of my trip to Florida I have a whole different perspective on life. On the way down to Florida, I experienced 3 flight cancellations and 1 missed flight. I got to the place of surrender asking my Divine if I was supposed to even be going at all. My daughter asked me, ‘mom do you want to go?’ I said yes I did. I really felt inspired from within to move through whatever was put on my path no matter how difficult it was. So much has changed for me now.

What about you? Are you motivated from outside of you….or are you inspired from within? When I think of how different every day can be in your life, I can only imagine you may be motivated at times and inspired at other times.

Awareness leaves us in the most empowered place.

I met an amazing thought leader who owns Shady Oak Primary School in Richmond, Texas. Her name is Debbie Kruger Elder. Debbie says, “Live as if you were to die tomorrow, learn as if you were to live forever.” One thing I learned about Debbie is her and her students wrote a book called ‘What Every Cool Kid Deserves to Know!’ It’s a book written by kids for kids on how to be successful in life. If you are inspired to make a difference in the life of a child, here is the link: http://www.lulu.com/…/paperback/product-22819856.html

May you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert
Trainer & Speaker

Identifying with your thoughts

November 25, 2016 By Sheila Unique 2 Comments

In the last week I’ve been involved in two conversations where we talked about our thoughts. I felt you may benefit from the learning involved. Allow me to share…

The first conversation took place in Hawaii. November of this year I was there at a retreat. I had asked a lady how she deals with situations when she is feeling uncomfortable. For example, how does she deal with feeling uncomfortable around certain people or situations she finds herself in?

Her reply had to do with ‘not taking ownership’ of her thoughts. When thoughts come up, she lets them go through her without claiming them as her own or without identifying with them. If she is feeling drained she just allows the drained feeling to move through her without thinking the feeling has to do with this or that. She also added she asks her Divine for the grace to be open, receptive and grateful for whatever is taking place at the time.

The second conversation was with one of my daughters. When we were talking, she innocently made the comment of how she doesn’t like to talk about what she thinks is happening to her. She feels talking about what she’s thinking brings her thoughts to life; she said ‘it gets too real’ so she doesn’t do it.

Have you consciously thought about your thoughts lately? What do you do with the thoughts that run through your mind? Do you think of them as a truth? Do you take ownership making them your own and giving those thoughts power over you?

I would be willing to go out on a limb and say if you do…you are like the rest of us in the world. What can you do to change that? From my experience, being aware of the thoughts you have, at the time you are having them is the most important step in resolving any uncomfortable feelings you experience along with those thoughts.

The source of your thoughts is not something you have control over at all. What you do have control over is your awareness and what you do with that awareness. Recognizing your thoughts are just thoughts helps greatly. Thoughts will be there one minute and gone the next. You can’t hold onto a thought no matter how hard you try. You can’t say, ‘oh I like this thought I’m going to hold onto it.’ Thoughts do not work that way.

Some thoughts come and go and some thoughts stick around for a while. The thoughts that stick around for a while tend to be the ones you don’t want to think about and can be bothersome in nature.

When you are aware of the thoughts you don’t want to think about….I invite you to consider the following:

1. Notice how you feel an inner fight or struggle with yourself in relation to the thoughts;

2. Start to mentally challenge the thoughts, not taking ownership of or identifying with any of them;

3. Ask your Divine to help you to be open, receptive and grateful for whatever you may be experiencing in that moment.

Thoughts you don’t want to think about can be both positive and negative in nature.

I invite you to observe your thoughts over the next while and let me know what comes up for you. The learning and growing will offer you much grace in the process.

I would love to hear from you. You are welcome to share….

As we head into the festive season….I wish you and your families a blessed and prosperous Christmas. May you experience joy and laughter as you continue to journey forward with each new day.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

The Problem?

March 11, 2016 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

Play with this thought…when we talk about problems are we aware of what the real problem is?

Recently my husband Jimmy shared this story with me. For a few months now, in the morning on the way to work he asked his Divine to take care of his mom and help take her pain away. Just when the pain was getting better, his mom would hurt herself again. This bothered him. No matter what he did to help her with her pain, it didn’t go away. When we talked about it, I encouraged him to consider looking at the problem underneath the pain.

He started to observe his mom was fine when people were around. As soon as she was alone she would have all kinds of pains. Then one day my husband said to me. ‘On my way to work today, I asked my Divine to bring my mom some friends to keep her company. Today her friend came over and spent the whole afternoon with her. Her friend is going to come over every afternoon to keep her company now.’

I could feel a sense of relief in my husband. His mom wasn’t as bothered about the pain on the days her friend was around. With his mom, what was the pain all about? Was the pain the problem…or was feeling alone the problem?

Do you have problems you have tried to resolve and no matter what you do the problem is still there? Have you considered looking a little deeper to see if there is an underlying issue?

Consider this…it is by our nature that we ‘label’ things as the problem. We might say for example, ‘it’s because he talks to much.’ or ‘it’s because she isn’t part of the family.’ We might also say, ‘of course my knee hurts I just finished running.’ or ‘my stomach aches now that I ate so late in the day (happening at a time when you can’t digest another thought that day.’ We are quick to label why things are happening as they are. What may be causing the problem at the time the problem is showing up?

I invite you over the next while to become aware of what you feel may be the problem. Play with the idea of challenging your first ‘thought’ on what the problem is.

May you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

I wish you so much inner peace and joy.
Sheila Unique, Certified Relationship Coach

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