Issues

Hardest Thing You Have to Deal With!

October 24, 2018 By Sheila Unique

What comes to your mind when you think of the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with? Maybe you think of a difficult relationship breakup. Maybe you think of dealing with the loss of a loved one. Maybe your thoughts take you back to the time when you were writing exams for a university class. Have you ever thought what made that time the hardest thing you’ve ever dealt with?

Everything you ‘walk through’ in life takes one step at a time, one day at a time. Whether you are walking through a financial or a health crisis of some kind, each new day gives you another opportunity to learn and grow.

Every step is filled with experiences. Some of the experiences are pleasant to move through. Some of the experiences are hard to deal with.

This past month, I have been focused on finishing my new book.

I was writing the section on the mental body. The mental body is all about your mind and your thoughts. I got to a place where I was really struggling to stay focused on my writing. I had all kinds of thoughts running through my head that day. Thoughts related to ‘other things’ I should be doing in my business, other than finishing my book.

On one of my trips to the washroom, I caught myself thinking how hard it was for me to stay focused on my writing. I thought staying focused on my writing was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with! I continued to think if only I could get through all this writing then things would get easier for me! At this point, I started to pay attention to what those thoughts were really about.

Throughout my writing, I’ve had all kinds of thoughts associated with feeling bad for doing something I truly love to do. My thoughts tried to make me feel guilty because I wasn’t out getting clients and earning more money. You have no idea how my mind continually tried to jump in with thoughts causing me to feel like I was wasting my time writing.

Was staying focused on my writing really the hardest thing I’ve had to deal with? The answer was no!

That day I had greater awareness of what the mind was trying to do! Staying focused on my writing was the easy part. Not getting caught up in all the thoughts running through my head was the hard part!

The hardest thing you have to deal with is your mind! The hardest thing you have to deal with is letting your thoughts freely enter and leave your head without engaging in the thoughts! This is not as easy as it appears.

You may think the hardest thing you have to deal with is getting through the issues you struggle with now. Issues like getting through the divorce and things will be better. Issues like losing weight and people will treat you nicer. Issues like changing jobs and you won’t have to deal with difficult people anymore. Those issues can be hard. I’m not downplaying the difficulty! What makes your issues hard to deal with?

As you move through your issues, do you tend to have positive uplifting thoughts as to how you can best move through your issues? Or would you tend to hear negative unsupportive thoughts running through your head? Does your mind allow you to be at peace with what you’ve done? Or does your mind keep reminding you of how things in the past didn’t work out and what you’re doing won’t work anyway?

Some days it’s pretty easy to turn off those negative thoughts. Then there are other days where no matter what you do, the negative thoughts just take over!

The mind continually tries to get you to think you need to be somewhere other than where you are in that moment! The mind wants you to think what you are doing in the moment is not as important as all the other things you should be doing instead! For example, if you get this done, then everything will fall into place so much easier. If you get that done, then your family will love you even more. If you finish this first, then you can afford that. There is no end to the kinds of things your mind wants you to believe.

How do you deal with the thoughts that run through the mind?

The most important thing you can do is start paying attention to the kinds of thoughts you get caught up in! That truly is the most important thing you can do for your Self. Why?

There is purpose in the thoughts you have. Thoughts come and go all day long. Many thoughts just zoom on by. If you get caught up in any of the thoughts, those thoughts are worth paying attention to. Paying attention to those thoughts leads you to the unrest associated with those thoughts. It is the unrest inside of you which causes certain negative unsupportive thoughts to continually surface. When you resolve that unrest, those certain negative thoughts will literally disappear. Imagine how that could make a difference in your life!

The mind will always have something more to think about and more you can do. The mind will always have comments and judgments. The mind will also continue to repeat certain thoughts just so you can get caught up in them.

You will only get caught up in thoughts which have caused you some kind of unrest inside of your Self. Becoming aware of the thoughts which cause you unrest leads you to a place of healing and resolution. Once you heal and resolve that unrest, you no longer get caught up in those thoughts. Those thoughts literally transform and disappear.

For me personally, being aware of my mind does not mean I won’t ever have negative unsupportive thoughts. Being aware allows me to consciously pay attention to the kinds of thoughts I get caught up in. It’s those thoughts which guide me forward to heal and resolve any ‘unrest’ I’m feeling inside.

I truly have experienced the transformation I talk about. Each new day I experience more and more inner peace with this approach.

Everything you ‘walk through’ in life, whether easy or hard, takes one step at a time. Each step is filled with experiences. Those experiences are accompanied with thoughts of all kinds. Becoming more and more aware of your thoughts is part of the learning and growing process.

You are always rewarded for doing your inner work.

There is so much more to share about the mind! I’m looking forward to sharing my new book with you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

Have the Spiritual Courage to look at things that cause you unrest and you will be rewarded with Inner Peace!

August 2, 2018 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

Family members tend to do things which can upset you. Looking at that upset can bring so much joy into your life.

This past week I had the spiritual courage to look at the unrest I was feeling inside. I looked deeper into a part of me I wasn’t prepared for. That courage rewarded me with a calm and peaceful feeling inside.

I thought my real life experience may inspire you to have the spiritual courage to look at any unrest you may be experiencing right now.

Let me start out by sharing what I mean by spiritual courage. Spirit has to do with you as a human being or a soul. You can’t physically see your spirit. Courage is the ability to move through something that frightens you.

It takes spiritual courage to constantly learn about your Self. It takes spiritual courage to constantly learn about the different life experiences which cause you to feel unrest inside. Living everyday with spiritual courage rewards you with empowerment and self awareness beyond measure.

Now onto the real life experience…..

Every Saturday my mom invites us to play TV bingo with her. Have you ever played bingo? Well, I’ve played bingo a number of times in my life. After playing with my mom for a few months I eventually stopped. Playing bingo with my mom wasn’t something I enjoyed.

My mom plays bingo a lot. There is always conversation about her not winning. Even if she wins money playing bingo she continually talks about how she never wins. This past weekend again she talked about not winning. For some reason I got upset about what she said. I noticed I felt agitated when she spoke. Feeling upset and agitated are reactions. Once those reactions surfaced I knew there was ‘unrest’ inside of me.

I started to really pay attention to that unrest. The next day I saw what the unrest was about! The unrest I was experiencing had to do with feeling powerless! Where did the word powerless come from?

I knew when mom was talking something she said caused me to react. So I started to look at what she said. I noticed mom talks like she’s powerless to make changes. For example, she continually reinforces how the bingo caller doesn’t call the number she needs to get a bingo. She says the other people in the bingo hall are luckier and win more than she does. She has many reasons why she can’t win which are all pointed at what others are or aren’t doing.

The word ‘powerless’ really stood out for me. I didn’t feel so energetic when I thought about being powerless. I kept asking myself, ‘what bothered me about noticing mom was powerless to make changes?’ In no time I became aware of a pattern with my mom. How she talks about not winning at bingo is how she also talks about not being able to lose weight.

When it comes to losing weight my mom talks like she’s powerless to make changes. The first 30 plus years of my life, mom went to some kind of weight loss club. She was always on a diet of some kind. She lost some weight. Then a week or two later she put the weight back on. This cycle continued year after year. As far back as I can remember she would justify her weight gains having to do with what others did or didn’t do. Dieting and weight loss has always been an issue in our family. It was interesting now to be aware of this pattern.

What was my mom showing me…about me? What was I learning about myself? Through everything I was shown how does that help me to resolve my unrest?

Asking myself these questions helped me to find my answers. The same approach would work for you. Asking yourself empowering questions like these helps you go inside yourself in times when you are experiencing unrest. Inside of you is where you find your answers.

For my answers I started looking in both my personal and professional life!

Personally, I am dealing with maple bugs outside our home. Talk about feeling powerless. More and more every day I see these bugs multiplying in numbers. They are crawling everywhere. Somehow these bugs are making their way into our home. If you are familiar with maple bugs, they leave spots all over the place. No matter what I do to keep the number of bugs down or even keep them out of the house hasn’t been working. It’s like I can’t win. It leaves me feeling powerless to change this situation with the bugs.

Professionally, I’m almost done writing my second book. Publishing this book is happening at a time when I’m also re-positioning my business. Moving through these changes has left me feeling powerless some days. More and more I’m being guided to give the controls over to my Divine.

Until I had that conversation with my mom I wasn’t even aware there was unrest inside of me. I certainly had no idea that unrest had to do with feeling powerless. I also wasn’t expecting to look at the issue of not winning or the pattern of not losing weight.

This is important to hear. Until your reactions surface, you may have no idea you were even upset. Your reactions help you pay attention to whatever caused you to react. Only when you become aware of your reactions, can you do something to resolve them. That is self awareness.

Spiritual courage always rewards you for doing your inner work.

Through the experiences with my mom I am excited to say I have greater self awareness when it comes to:

Powerless versus Empowered;
Can’t win versus Winning.

It is in the self awareness where the healing takes place inside. When you have the spiritual courage to look at areas of unrest inside of you, your life transforms in more ways than you could ever know.

For me I’ve now noticed a huge change within myself. One of the immediate changes I experienced had to do with feeling more compassionate and understanding with my mom. Even my thoughts have changed. Now when I think of the word powerless that word doesn’t cause me to feel tired. I actually feel energetically empowered.

Growing up I remember wondering why my mom doesn’t just change her behaviors and get on with life. I judged her and others for not being able to change. Now I’m aware of that judgment. With that awareness I am more conscious of passing judgment around what it takes to change. It can be easy to think and talk about things. It’s not so easy to actually take action.

Everything that happens in your life is for your own learning and growing. What you speak about regarding your experiences doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. Your experiences and your truth only have to make sense to you.

Let me end by saying….having a glimpse at my past helped me to resolve the unrest I recently felt. Resolving my unrest is about me and has nothing to do with how my mom did or didn’t do anything in her life. My mom is living her life perfectly according to her plan.

I perceived my mom living from a position of feeling powerless. Those are my words. My words actually helped me to find my own truth.

Some days learning and growing takes a lot of spiritual courage. Every experience you heal through leaves you to feel a calm and peaceful feeling inside. That inner peace spreads out into all my relationships.

Stories like this one will be in my new book!

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Self Empowerment Expert!

The Future You Want or Not?

August 29, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

The thoughts that run through your mind totally make a difference. What can you do about them? Allow me to share this personal experience with you.

A while back I was listening to a couple of different speakers talk on some subjects I was interested in learning more about. I noticed I was unsettled as I listened through their presentations.

The next day when I woke up I was lying in bed for a few minutes before getting up. I started to think about the speakers I listened to the night before. I wanted to know what was causing me to feel unsettled. I listened to what the voice in my head was saying. After a minute or so I could see the words coming from that voice were judgmental and critical of speakers in general. The unsettled feelings had to do with my unrest around speaking on stages. I continued to observe what was running through my head.

In no time my thoughts moved to presentations I myself have done in past. I caught myself replaying the same negative thoughts over again.

Within seconds I saw it!!! What I saw was different from anything I’ve experienced before. I actually witnessed the dynamic from a place of greater awareness.

I clearly saw a new perspective on what my thoughts were doing for me and my future! The subtle negative thoughts playing over and over in my mind were literally steering me in the direction I didn’t want to go. I could feel the swirling energy right along with the thoughts I was having. To actually feel the effect of my thoughts on my energy helped me to really be conscious. Conscious of what I’m thinking when it comes to moving forward in the direction my heart wants to go. What was so cool was noticing how this new impacted my physical body. This awareness had me physically standing more upright. An unexpected gift!

Your thoughts and emotions do impact your physical body and overall health. You can easily see this for yourself! Just think of something you don’t like or even hate. As you think of that…notice what your face is doing, what your body is doing. You may notice a heavy feeling come over you. Now consider this…if you spent a lot of time in your day thinking or focusing on things you don’t like about yourself or even others….your body starts to physically respond. So many thoughts are subconscious. Subconscious means you are not aware of them. Could you imagine if you are doing this regularly?

Now think about something you really like or love. Something that lights up your heart. As you think of that…again notice what your face is doing, what your body is doing. You may notice a lighter feeling. Wouldn’t it be great to spend majority of your day in that space? Yes, your body responds to that in wonderful ways.

Here is something else I want to point out. When you went from feeling something you don’t like or hate…..to feeling something you like or love, the changes you felt happened because of the change in your thoughts only.

Negative thoughts, worry, being bothered about things are examples of the ‘unrest’ you can feel inside. Overtime the physical body reflects that unrest. Overtime your ‘future’ reflects that unrest.

What can you do about it? Being aware is the first step giving you the controls when it comes to steering your life. Those subtle negative thoughts playing over and over in your mind can literally steer you in the direction u probably would prefer not to go in.

Thoughts will come and go. You cannot hold onto any thought. If you don’t believe me try thinking of a positive thought with the intention to hold on to it all day. That is not possible. Thoughts come and go. The thoughts you most need to pay attention to are the ones:

you hear repeated over and over;
that cause you to feel unrest inside;
you hear being critical or judgmental of others;
you can’t get out of your mind.

The other important fact about thoughts is they have no life force! They have no life until you give them time and energy. That can be empowering in itself to know that! That alone can bring about a more positive future. Again this is about being aware.

The thoughts that run through your mind are the thoughts which create your reality. Those little voices you hear inside your head do make a difference. You see hand and hand with your thoughts are the feelings and emotions. If your thoughts cause you to feel good and uplifted great. If your thoughts cause you to feel down and upset it would be those thoughts which can lead you to the unrest inside. That unrest may be speaking to you from a very deep place…depending on how much inner work you’ve done. Once you resolve that unrest, those thoughts will transform. You get the choice to work powerfully with any thought.

I have more to share around your thoughts! That can be for another day.

If you want to learn tools which help you resolve any unrest inside I invite you to consider The Unique Approach. Packages are available. I do distance work just as powerfully as being in person. You are always rewarded for doing your inner work.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert, Master Problem Solver!

Hard Shells a Gift

January 10, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

Today I was talking with a client who I will refer to as Martha. Martha shared how she feels she has a hard shell and wanted to work some more on letting the shell go. Recently she said something to someone and wasn’t feeling good about what she said. That was part of the ‘hardness’ she referred to. As we continued to talk, Martha mentioned her company may be making changes to her job. She went on to share she has some issues with her new boss. Once she started to talk about what she was experiencing the emotions were building. All of a sudden she recognized her boss had said some things to her that weren’t nice. She could feel her boss had what she called a hard shell. Martha cried.

There it was….the Universe had brought this new boss to her to help her heal something inside herself! The new boss was not someone she could just ignore. He was in her face at the time she wanted help healing that hard shell she was feeling in herself! In no time the issues Martha had towards her boss had totally changed. She had a greater respect for him, felt more empowered and ready to move through the changes ahead of her.

The Universe will always support you on your journey! Whatever you are moving through, I invite you to consider how the Universe puts people, things and situations in your path – not as a punishment – but as a gift to help you resolve and heal whatever you may be moving through at that time. People may need to ignite charges within you to help you to get to your issue easily. That is where the healing takes place inside.

May you find what works for you and find your own truth as you journey forward in life.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

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