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What is it to Win?

August 29, 2019 By Sheila Unique

Have you ever played a game with someone and they quit before the game was finished? When someone quits the game, is there a winner?

A couple of weekends ago, my husband and I were at the lake visiting with the family. The grandchildren and I played a ball game. Our granddaughter and I were partners. We played against two of the grandsons. Our team was winning at the point in the game when two of the grandchildren weren’t getting along. One grandchild got upset and quit the game. Well, that was the end of that game.

The next day, I happened to be playing a card game with one of our grandsons. I was winning the game at the point when our grandson decided he didn’t want to play anymore.

Now this was the second day in a row where I experienced someone quitting before we got to the end of the game. I have come to appreciate much learning can come through repeated experiences. The grandchildren quitting was not normal. Because this wasn’t normal, I started to reflect back on those two experiences. What was happening around me? What was happening inside of me?

I started to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings. Repeatedly, I observed I had been winning the game at the time when other players quit. How did I feel when they quit? Was there any unrest inside of me?

When it comes to playing games, if you don’t finish the game, there is no winner. What is left if there is no winner? All that is left is the experience! Can there still be a winner?

Let’s look at experiences. Every day you have experiences of all kinds. Some are pleasant and some experiences create emotional disruption inside.

Pleasant experiences seem to come and go quickly. They come and go quickly without giving much thought to the experience.

It’s the unpleasant experiences which seem to cause most of the emotional disruption inside of you. What actually causes this disruption?

Emotional disruption is caused by your thoughts. Thinking causes you to get emotional. Your thoughts and emotions impact your physical body. Positive or negative thoughts and emotions cause your physical body to respond according.

When you are aware of your thoughts, emotions and physical body, you are in the most empowered place you could be. You are in the most empowered place because you have the awareness of what’s going on inside of you!

In the experiences which are unpleasant for you, what are you observing? What is happening inside, in relation to what is happening outside of you? What are you thinking? What are you feeling? How is your body responding?

Awareness makes you an automatic winner! You hear your thoughts. You feel your emotions. You have an empowering sense of what’s going on in your physical body.

There is a saying, ‘It’s not about winning or losing. It’s how you play the game.’

How you play the game depends on the game which is being played at the time? Life can be a game. Whatever you are given in your life is to be experienced. From that experience you grow to learn more about yourself.

Each game I played with the grandchildren was another experience in my day to day life. Those experiences offered me an opportunity to see myself in action. When I saw myself in action, I was aware of what was going on for me. Regardless if I finished the games with the grandchildren, I could still be a winner. I could still be a winner because I was winning in the game of life.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert!

Power in Self Awareness

November 29, 2018 By Sheila Unique

Self awareness is about being aware of what’s going on inside of you…in relation to anything and everything outside of you. So much can be revealed to you when you look inside yourself.

Self awareness gives you a richness beyond measure. Why? If you have any upset, any unrest inside of you, it takes self awareness to heal and resolve it.

I was privileged to learn from an amazing Avatar in India. Sri Bhagavan is the founder of the Oneness Temple and University in India. Sri Bhagavan taught, ‘everything begins and ends with awareness.’ The more I grow in awareness the more I come to learn the truth in that statement.

Each new day brings you experiences to learn and grow through. Allow me to share one such experience….

About a month ago my email account was ‘hacked.’ I received a spam message from my own email address. Receiving that message was quite disturbing.

At the time, I called the gentleman who usually helps me with problems when it comes to computer viruses and things. He told me to just delete the spam message and not to worry about it. I deleted the message.

These same spam messages continued to show up twice a week. I first blocked them and then deleted them. That was working okay until I returned from my retreat in Hawaii.

Messages went from two times a week to twice a day. Then one morning, I opened up my email account. There were 3 of the same spam messages.

Something about all those messages bothered me. I knew I had ‘unrest’ inside. Physically, I could feel this pressure and pain type sensation in my chest. Mentally, all I could think about was how powerless I was to make those messages stop. Emotionally, I was upset because I couldn’t control what was happening. In no time, I just cried. I asked my Divine to help me resolve the issue.

Self awareness is about noticing what’s going on inside of you…in relation to what’s happening outside of you. Whenever you experience unrest of any kind, three things will happen:

Physically, you have aches or pain type sensations;
Mentally, you have negative thoughts running through your mind;
Emotionally, you get upset in some way.

Wording that another way…whenever you experience physical aches and pains, there will be negative thoughts and emotions present as well.

Another day later, I opened up my email account. I received seven of the same spam type emails. Not one or two emails. I received seven in one day!

The number of emails went from three to seven. Through growing self awareness I knew my Divine was getting my attention.

I noticed things had changed from the day before. The day before I looked at three messages, felt powerless to do anything and cried. That day I saw the seven messages and no longer did I feel dis-empowered! Something had shifted inside me. I now felt empowered to take action.

The first thing I did was call my email provider. I asked if they could do anything to stop these spam messages. They said no. They said I just needed to block and delete them. Eventually the messages will stop.’

I know I have now healed and resolved the unrest I was feeling. I no longer react like I did before. I also observed it has been over a week since I received my last spam message. My Divine put this experience in my path to help me learn and grow. Having self awareness makes all the difference!

Being aware of yourself, allows you to recognize the changes that take place inside of you. You notice times you are upset and reacting. You then notice times where you no longer react like you did before. Things outside of you transform. Having greater awareness leaves you in the most empowering place when it comes to you and your own life.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

Perception Makes a Difference!

November 27, 2017 By Sheila Unique 2 Comments

So many times life gives you messages to help you learn and grow. It’s not always obvious what those messages are about. I’d like to share an example of a problem I experienced and how that problem gave me wonderful messages.

For the last two weeks my computer had been doing weird things. When working with emails, I clicked on the reply key. Instead of moving the message onto the screen to reply, it booted the message down into the draft stage. When I deleted one message, it deleted 3 or 4 of them. When performing the copy and paste feature the computer couldn’t do it. All of this got to be very aggravating.

Someone had mentioned the battery for the mouse may need to be changed. I did that and my attempt to fix the problem didn’t work.

The computer went in to be serviced. They found the problem. The clicker in the mouse was worn out. After how many years of using that same mouse I now needed a new one.

Something I thought was the problem was not the problem at all. Something I thought was going to cost me a lot of money to fix turned out to cost me less than $80. This whole experience blessed me with a gift.

How can you take a problem and turn it into a gift? When you have problems, those problems are opportunities for you to learn and grow. This doesn’t mean you have to like your problems. Not at all! As a matter of fact, you won’t initially see problems as opportunities because of the thoughts and emotions which accompany the problems.

In the problem stage, thoughts and emotions express themselves as reactions. Reactions cloud the mind and distort your perception. The most beautiful thing about reactions is this. Reactions show you there is unrest inside. Until you react you may have no idea of the unrest. Those reactions are not meant to be used to beat your self up. They surface as guidance for you to learn and grow.

You have the power to work with your reactions. The moment reactions surface pay attention to what’s going on inside and outside of you. Having that awareness leads you to find a resolution. You will know you have resolved your problem when you experience a shift in your perception. That shift takes something perceived as a problem and turns it into a gift.

Let’s go back to the example of my experience and I can explain further.

After being aware my computer wasn’t working properly, I did what I could to resolve the problem. The problem wasn’t resolved causing me to feel aggravated. I noticed my aggravation mostly had to do with disempowerment which clouded my perception. When I took action and had the problem looked at by a computer expert the real source of the problem was identified and resolved.

Throughout that process I experienced quite a shift inside myself. Within days after getting the computer home I could see how the Universe blessed me with a gift!

The computer and the mouse had wonderful messages for sharing.

Firstly, is the problem really the problem? Focusing on the computer didn’t help me consider how the mouse was influencing this problem! Think about your life. How many times do you focus on what you perceive is the problem and it isn’t the problem?

Secondly, the mouse represents thoughts and the computer represents the physical body. The thoughts ‘control’ the input and direction of the physical body. The physical body is impacted by your input…in whatever form you use. Again think of your life. How many times do your thoughts mislead you around what the problem really is about?

Here are some examples…..

You have back pain. You look to your back as the problem;
Your hips burn. You think your hips are giving out due to your age;
You can’t lose weight. You look for another diet to try;
Your parents make you mad. You look to your parents to change;
You’re depressed. You think the medication isn’t working;

Those are just a few examples of how you can get caught up in what you think or perceive is the problem. It happens very innocently! Yet what thoughts and emotions keep the problem going? Have you ever thought about that?

What you are thinking and feeling does impact relationships of all kinds. Thoughts and emotions also impact your physical body and overall health. It is a fact when problems are resolved causing a shift in your thoughts, emotions and your energy the physical body will immediately ‘right’ itself.

I just got back from a 9 day retreat in Hawaii. The experience of the computer and mouse was very timely for me. Timely in that it reminded me to be very conscious of my thoughts and how those thoughts influence the running of my inner ‘computer.’

Everything you experience in life offers you much learning and growing. You learn about what you like and don’t like. You learn about what works and doesn’t work. You learn what you react to and what you are at peace with. Until you have any experience you can’t know what the learning will be for you.

What kinds of problems are you experiencing these days? I invite you to consider the learning and growing element throughout the process. You will see your gifts.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship and Self Empowerment Expert!

Damage from Anger

November 18, 2015 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

I’ve been very privileged to coach some young teenagers. These young teenagers are having trouble making sense of what they are feeling. They get mad and express their anger. Not only that, these teenagers are turning their anger in on themselves because they don’t know how to change what they are feeling.

One young teenager I was talking with was upset and angry. While angry this teenager acted out damaging things and causing some hardship to others. In our coaching session this teenager started to recognize where some of the anger was coming from. They could feel the emotions expressed through their physical body. They could piece together events in their life causing them to get upset. There was greater awareness to work with.

At the end of the session I talked with the teenager about life lessons. I shared how they will experience things in life which are difficult. Those difficult experiences offer them life lessons to help them grow. What could be learned from their experience? What might the Universe be trying to teach them?

I invited the teenager to see the life lesson of how uncontrollable anger can potentially hurt people, cause damage and hardship. They experienced what that felt like for them. Now they are getting a sense of what it feels like to move through their emotions resolving the anger inside. With that awareness they may not be acting out like they did before.

I helped the teenager see how the Universe had given them a gift. There will be potential messages with difficult situations. They can now work on being mindful of the dynamics that take place when emotions start to surface in their life.

I personally feel when it comes to everyday living, feelings and emotions are not something to be taken lightly. People become very vocal when they are frustrated and angry. What causes people to feel what they are feeling? How can people resolve the unrest inside resulting in experiencing a more fulfilling purposeful life?

Sheila Unique, The Relationship Coach

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