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Mind has no Clear Direction

April 17, 2023 By Sheila Unique

Have you ever been so aware of what you’re thinking about to the point you clearly see the workings of the mind? How the mind can take you off in directions that doesn’t make sense and has no truth to what’s being said. Not too long ago I experienced just that!

Just after Christmas I was at my moms and went to use the washroom in the basement. By the sink was a new scent of hand soap that smelled wonderful. I found out my niece’s boyfriend gifted her the soap at Christmas. I went to buy some and learned that scent wasn’t available anymore.

A few mornings later I was exercising and started to have thoughts about that soap. If I continue to use her soap there won’t be any left for my niece to enjoy. From there I thought the next time we go over to my mom’s my niece will have a note written on the soap saying not to use it. I then thought I would take a picture of that note and send the picture to my sister showing her what her daughter had done. Wow…at that moment I stopped thinking about the situation because none of that was making any sense to me.

These thoughts were popping up out of no where! From the one thought of soap running out…to getting to the place where I was going to do this and do that…I knew it was an example of how the mind has no clear direction; it creates unnecessary drama. The moment the fourth thought surfaced about me telling my sister, I knew none of what I was thinking was even true! As much as my mind made an issue about the things my niece would or wouldn’t say…there was none of that spoken or even implied. She so generously put her gift of the bottle of soap out to be used by whomever used the washroom.

In reflection I could so easily see that these thoughts were giving me the example I needed in order to understand the workings of the mind. How real they appeared…and yet how false they actually were. I was in awe at how the universe gave me such a crazy example to learn and grow from!

It’s important to recognize we need our mind in order to exist in this life. Even though the above example was shared…it wasn’t the only one I had. We’ll continue to have all kinds of thoughts related to all kinds of things. Some of those thoughts will be useful and necessary directing us on our journey forward. Then there’ll be thoughts taking us off in directions that don’t even make sense and couldn’t possibly be true. It’s these kinds of thoughts that create problems in relationships. Your awareness is one of the best tools you can use to discern truth from non-truth.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Renovator, Medical Intuitive, Spiritual Teacher

Existing Without the Mind?

October 1, 2019 By Sheila Unique

Have you ever thought about that, a life without your mind? Many people want to control their mind or wish their mind would just stop. You cannot exist in this world without a mind!

If you need your mind to exist, then how can you change the relationship you have with your mind? What purpose does the mind serve? Have you ever stopped to notice the random thoughts which surface in your day to day life?

Not long ago, I was making an effort to stay present and aware in my day. Half way through the day, I noticed as I was in the middle of doing one thing, I was already thinking about what I could do next. I wasn’t present to finish what I was currently doing. The mind was busy taking me off in all different directions. Only when I became aware of what I was thinking about, could I make a change.

The majority of thoughts which run through your mind relate to things you’ve already done or things you intend to do.

Let’s say you are thinking about the upcoming meeting with the boss. The boss told you they are restructuring parts of your job. When you learn about the restructuring, you start to think about all the work you’ve been doing lately. You’re analyzing your work in relation to other people in the company. Then you think about something that happened over three years ago. There was a big mis-understanding with a customer. The customer ended up talking about you with your boss. It still bothers you a bit to think about that. You get caught up in those thoughts for a while. In no time you have yourself talked into possibly losing your job. You haven’t even had the meeting yet.

As much as thinking is important, your mind will never leave you in a restful place with anything in your life! Your mind continually brings up thoughts which cause you to feel upset inside.

You could be driving home and have random thoughts about something you hated as a child. You get caught up in those thoughts and start to feel resentful. The resentful feeling follows you into the evening.

You could be standing in a grocery store and have random thoughts about a disagreement you had with a family member six months ago. Next thing you know the disagreement is playing over and over in your mind. Now you feel irritated. You get your groceries home and wonder why you are irritated with your spouse.

When you get caught up in thoughts like that, pay attention to what you are thinking about. Thoughts which cause you to feel upset continue to surface until you heal and resolve the upset related to those thoughts. That is the purpose of repeated thoughts.

Let’s say last week you said mean things to one of your parents. It still upsets you to think about your parents. The nature of the mind is to keep you thinking about all the things which upset you. The mind will not guide you to heal and resolve that upset. This is where awareness comes in. What are you actually thinking about? What is the problem and how do you feel about that problem?

Also, when it comes to your mind, you cannot ‘think’ your way to healing and resolving the upset. Healing for you does not happen when you think everything will be better next time you go visit your parents. Resolving your upset does not happen when you think your parents will change.

For you to heal and resolve any kind of upset, you first need to be aware of what you are thinking. This is very important, especially if your thoughts are causing you to feel some kind of upset. The moment you are aware you are upset, notice what you are thinking about. Your thoughts identify your problem and bring up some kind of emotion. Where you go from there literally has to do with what you were thinking about. The next article will go into that.

It is not possible to exist without the mind. The more you become aware of your thoughts and emotions, the greater opportunity you have to do something with the thoughts that continually cause you to get upset.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert

Power in Self Awareness

November 29, 2018 By Sheila Unique

Self awareness is about being aware of what’s going on inside of you…in relation to anything and everything outside of you. So much can be revealed to you when you look inside yourself.

Self awareness gives you a richness beyond measure. Why? If you have any upset, any unrest inside of you, it takes self awareness to heal and resolve it.

I was privileged to learn from an amazing Avatar in India. Sri Bhagavan is the founder of the Oneness Temple and University in India. Sri Bhagavan taught, ‘everything begins and ends with awareness.’ The more I grow in awareness the more I come to learn the truth in that statement.

Each new day brings you experiences to learn and grow through. Allow me to share one such experience….

About a month ago my email account was ‘hacked.’ I received a spam message from my own email address. Receiving that message was quite disturbing.

At the time, I called the gentleman who usually helps me with problems when it comes to computer viruses and things. He told me to just delete the spam message and not to worry about it. I deleted the message.

These same spam messages continued to show up twice a week. I first blocked them and then deleted them. That was working okay until I returned from my retreat in Hawaii.

Messages went from two times a week to twice a day. Then one morning, I opened up my email account. There were 3 of the same spam messages.

Something about all those messages bothered me. I knew I had ‘unrest’ inside. Physically, I could feel this pressure and pain type sensation in my chest. Mentally, all I could think about was how powerless I was to make those messages stop. Emotionally, I was upset because I couldn’t control what was happening. In no time, I just cried. I asked my Divine to help me resolve the issue.

Self awareness is about noticing what’s going on inside of you…in relation to what’s happening outside of you. Whenever you experience unrest of any kind, three things will happen:

Physically, you have aches or pain type sensations;
Mentally, you have negative thoughts running through your mind;
Emotionally, you get upset in some way.

Wording that another way…whenever you experience physical aches and pains, there will be negative thoughts and emotions present as well.

Another day later, I opened up my email account. I received seven of the same spam type emails. Not one or two emails. I received seven in one day!

The number of emails went from three to seven. Through growing self awareness I knew my Divine was getting my attention.

I noticed things had changed from the day before. The day before I looked at three messages, felt powerless to do anything and cried. That day I saw the seven messages and no longer did I feel dis-empowered! Something had shifted inside me. I now felt empowered to take action.

The first thing I did was call my email provider. I asked if they could do anything to stop these spam messages. They said no. They said I just needed to block and delete them. Eventually the messages will stop.’

I know I have now healed and resolved the unrest I was feeling. I no longer react like I did before. I also observed it has been over a week since I received my last spam message. My Divine put this experience in my path to help me learn and grow. Having self awareness makes all the difference!

Being aware of yourself, allows you to recognize the changes that take place inside of you. You notice times you are upset and reacting. You then notice times where you no longer react like you did before. Things outside of you transform. Having greater awareness leaves you in the most empowering place when it comes to you and your own life.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

Hardest Thing You Have to Deal With!

October 24, 2018 By Sheila Unique

What comes to your mind when you think of the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with? Maybe you think of a difficult relationship breakup. Maybe you think of dealing with the loss of a loved one. Maybe your thoughts take you back to the time when you were writing exams for a university class. Have you ever thought what made that time the hardest thing you’ve ever dealt with?

Everything you ‘walk through’ in life takes one step at a time, one day at a time. Whether you are walking through a financial or a health crisis of some kind, each new day gives you another opportunity to learn and grow.

Every step is filled with experiences. Some of the experiences are pleasant to move through. Some of the experiences are hard to deal with.

This past month, I have been focused on finishing my new book.

I was writing the section on the mental body. The mental body is all about your mind and your thoughts. I got to a place where I was really struggling to stay focused on my writing. I had all kinds of thoughts running through my head that day. Thoughts related to ‘other things’ I should be doing in my business, other than finishing my book.

On one of my trips to the washroom, I caught myself thinking how hard it was for me to stay focused on my writing. I thought staying focused on my writing was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with! I continued to think if only I could get through all this writing then things would get easier for me! At this point, I started to pay attention to what those thoughts were really about.

Throughout my writing, I’ve had all kinds of thoughts associated with feeling bad for doing something I truly love to do. My thoughts tried to make me feel guilty because I wasn’t out getting clients and earning more money. You have no idea how my mind continually tried to jump in with thoughts causing me to feel like I was wasting my time writing.

Was staying focused on my writing really the hardest thing I’ve had to deal with? The answer was no!

That day I had greater awareness of what the mind was trying to do! Staying focused on my writing was the easy part. Not getting caught up in all the thoughts running through my head was the hard part!

The hardest thing you have to deal with is your mind! The hardest thing you have to deal with is letting your thoughts freely enter and leave your head without engaging in the thoughts! This is not as easy as it appears.

You may think the hardest thing you have to deal with is getting through the issues you struggle with now. Issues like getting through the divorce and things will be better. Issues like losing weight and people will treat you nicer. Issues like changing jobs and you won’t have to deal with difficult people anymore. Those issues can be hard. I’m not downplaying the difficulty! What makes your issues hard to deal with?

As you move through your issues, do you tend to have positive uplifting thoughts as to how you can best move through your issues? Or would you tend to hear negative unsupportive thoughts running through your head? Does your mind allow you to be at peace with what you’ve done? Or does your mind keep reminding you of how things in the past didn’t work out and what you’re doing won’t work anyway?

Some days it’s pretty easy to turn off those negative thoughts. Then there are other days where no matter what you do, the negative thoughts just take over!

The mind continually tries to get you to think you need to be somewhere other than where you are in that moment! The mind wants you to think what you are doing in the moment is not as important as all the other things you should be doing instead! For example, if you get this done, then everything will fall into place so much easier. If you get that done, then your family will love you even more. If you finish this first, then you can afford that. There is no end to the kinds of things your mind wants you to believe.

How do you deal with the thoughts that run through the mind?

The most important thing you can do is start paying attention to the kinds of thoughts you get caught up in! That truly is the most important thing you can do for your Self. Why?

There is purpose in the thoughts you have. Thoughts come and go all day long. Many thoughts just zoom on by. If you get caught up in any of the thoughts, those thoughts are worth paying attention to. Paying attention to those thoughts leads you to the unrest associated with those thoughts. It is the unrest inside of you which causes certain negative unsupportive thoughts to continually surface. When you resolve that unrest, those certain negative thoughts will literally disappear. Imagine how that could make a difference in your life!

The mind will always have something more to think about and more you can do. The mind will always have comments and judgments. The mind will also continue to repeat certain thoughts just so you can get caught up in them.

You will only get caught up in thoughts which have caused you some kind of unrest inside of your Self. Becoming aware of the thoughts which cause you unrest leads you to a place of healing and resolution. Once you heal and resolve that unrest, you no longer get caught up in those thoughts. Those thoughts literally transform and disappear.

For me personally, being aware of my mind does not mean I won’t ever have negative unsupportive thoughts. Being aware allows me to consciously pay attention to the kinds of thoughts I get caught up in. It’s those thoughts which guide me forward to heal and resolve any ‘unrest’ I’m feeling inside.

I truly have experienced the transformation I talk about. Each new day I experience more and more inner peace with this approach.

Everything you ‘walk through’ in life, whether easy or hard, takes one step at a time. Each step is filled with experiences. Those experiences are accompanied with thoughts of all kinds. Becoming more and more aware of your thoughts is part of the learning and growing process.

You are always rewarded for doing your inner work.

There is so much more to share about the mind! I’m looking forward to sharing my new book with you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

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