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Holding on for his life!

May 8, 2017 By Sheila Unique 1 Comment

Over two weeks ago my brother Mark had a kidney transplant. He was experiencing some challenges. My husband and I took our mom to visit him. The trip was two and a half hours each way.

When we got to the hospital we found Mark in a place where he didn’t have much strength to even get out of bed. His eyes were so puffy. I was quite shocked to see him like that! For the first while I was blessed to be able to sit and talk with Mark, as my sister-in-law sat with my husband and our mom in the visiting room.

I asked Mark a lot of questions about what he thought was preventing him from going home. We talked for quite a while. It appeared Mark had lost his way. I helped him to shift his perception and bring about strength inside. Miracles started to show up while we were there.

One miracle was when I found his secondary urinary tube was totally twisted preventing the release of urine. He had thought his new kidney wasn’t working properly. I helped him to consider there are times when problems come from ‘outside’ of us, not always from the inside.

Another miracle showed up when he needed the support of a catheter to help eliminate the backup of urine. Mark had experienced so much pain thru a previous episode of inserting the catheter and he was upset about having to go through it again. We talked about the changes taking place within him and to not fight the healing process. When the nurses put the catheter in, they told Mark they were done! He hadn’t even felt it. He was so relieved there was no pain he just cried from with joy! I even had tears myself. I shared with Mark the fact that he had no pain was also a sign of the healing and changes taking place within.

When we left that day, Mark had no swelling around his eyes and had a beautiful color to his skin. Our visit all together as a family was amazing. It was a trip worth taking.

As I write this, Mark is going home soon. We all are so grateful for all the prayers, blessings and grace he has been receiving from all over the world. For all your prayers for Mark, on behalf of all our family I thank you so much.

My brother Mark is one example of how we can lose our focus in times when things become really hard for us to deal with. Think about that for yourself. Something challenging comes up for you and after so long things get to the place where it’s really hard to keep going. This can be a separation/divorce; can be the loss of a loved one; can be a layoff/fired from a job. If it takes a ‘long’ time to bring about resolution inside you can lose sight of what is taking place and how that is serving you.

Some examples of how losing focus can show up in your life:

you don’t see how your body can heal itself;
you don’t think you’ll ever be able to turn your finances around;
that special someone you want in your life doesn’t exist;
everything is hopeless, why even try anymore.

Being in a space like that indicates you have got to the place where you are caught up in all the mental and emotional noise going on inside. Things don’t even make sense anymore. What have you really lost sight of? What could help you to move through that?

Clarity and focus are often ‘clouded’ by something going on deep inside. To move through that can be an enlightening process; a process which gently guides you to shift your perception and find your inner strength. I work with that.

Life experiences are about learning and growing which results from moving through each moment of your day. As you move through your challenges no longer become challenges and you start to feel a sense of calm inside.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

Making Decisions or Taking Action?

April 12, 2017 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

There has been a lot of talk lately about people finding it hard to make decisions. So many times people have made a decision about something and for some reason they haven’t acted on their decision. Is this about making decisions or is it about taking action?

I know a lady who was so excited to start her new job. After a couple of days into the new job she got her first assignment which involved doing some writing. This lady was trying to write something and couldn’t think of a thing to write. She asked me to help her clear some of the blocks she was feeling. We were talking for a few minutes and the blocks were clearing. Her energy was different. Then I said, “Start writing something. You can only correct and grow from something already down on paper!” She said that was what she needed to hear. Was her situation about making a decision on what to write? Was it about taking action and having something to work with?

Another lady I know had been living with some friends. She knew now was the time to find her own place. She felt she was having a hard time deciding on the move and wanted me to help her with decision making. I asked her if this was about decision making or about taking action. For her, the decision had been made. Now it was time to take action. Once she saw that we started clearing the blocks around her taking the action she needed to make the move.

When it comes to major decisions there is a process you must go through. For example, you decide it’s time to get your own place. The next logical step would be to find the place you want to live in. Once you have that place, then you can start to move in the direction of furnishing your place. You can only work on moving into your new place when you have the place to move into! It is in the forward action that the Divine can help you in wonderful ways.

What would happen if you decided to find your own place and the first thing you did was put all your time and energy into buying furnishings. How would you know what to buy if you don’t know where you will be living? Someone may ask you to house sit their home for six months. You may run across an old friend who invites you to travel overseas for a few months. Then what would you do with all your new furnishings? It may not be beneficial to spend hours of time and energy worrying about all the furnishings you will need when you don’t actually have the new place picked out.

Is fear involved when it comes to taking action? Yes and no depending on what it is! You can talk and talk about decisions you’ve made. You can even change your minds about decisions you’ve made. What really matters is taking the action on those decisions.

I remembered when I first started writing my best-selling book, Quick Shifts. I was literally sitting in front of my computer with tears running down my face. I couldn’t move! Eventually I asked for help to move through the blocks I was feeling. My niece said to me, ‘Aunty, you have writer’s block!’ To which I replied, ‘If that is what writer’s block is, I could feel every bit of it.’ Did it make it any easier for me to write? Not at all, but I did start writing.

When you look at what is going on in your life right now have you made decisions you need to take action on? If you’ve made the decision and yet you continue to be focused on needing to make a decision that can be a huge waste of time and energy. It is more beneficial to direct that time and energy into taking action to move forward on that decision. It would be wonderful to hear from you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Expert
Trainer & Speaker

Identifying with your thoughts

November 25, 2016 By Sheila Unique 2 Comments

In the last week I’ve been involved in two conversations where we talked about our thoughts. I felt you may benefit from the learning involved. Allow me to share…

The first conversation took place in Hawaii. November of this year I was there at a retreat. I had asked a lady how she deals with situations when she is feeling uncomfortable. For example, how does she deal with feeling uncomfortable around certain people or situations she finds herself in?

Her reply had to do with ‘not taking ownership’ of her thoughts. When thoughts come up, she lets them go through her without claiming them as her own or without identifying with them. If she is feeling drained she just allows the drained feeling to move through her without thinking the feeling has to do with this or that. She also added she asks her Divine for the grace to be open, receptive and grateful for whatever is taking place at the time.

The second conversation was with one of my daughters. When we were talking, she innocently made the comment of how she doesn’t like to talk about what she thinks is happening to her. She feels talking about what she’s thinking brings her thoughts to life; she said ‘it gets too real’ so she doesn’t do it.

Have you consciously thought about your thoughts lately? What do you do with the thoughts that run through your mind? Do you think of them as a truth? Do you take ownership making them your own and giving those thoughts power over you?

I would be willing to go out on a limb and say if you do…you are like the rest of us in the world. What can you do to change that? From my experience, being aware of the thoughts you have, at the time you are having them is the most important step in resolving any uncomfortable feelings you experience along with those thoughts.

The source of your thoughts is not something you have control over at all. What you do have control over is your awareness and what you do with that awareness. Recognizing your thoughts are just thoughts helps greatly. Thoughts will be there one minute and gone the next. You can’t hold onto a thought no matter how hard you try. You can’t say, ‘oh I like this thought I’m going to hold onto it.’ Thoughts do not work that way.

Some thoughts come and go and some thoughts stick around for a while. The thoughts that stick around for a while tend to be the ones you don’t want to think about and can be bothersome in nature.

When you are aware of the thoughts you don’t want to think about….I invite you to consider the following:

1. Notice how you feel an inner fight or struggle with yourself in relation to the thoughts;

2. Start to mentally challenge the thoughts, not taking ownership of or identifying with any of them;

3. Ask your Divine to help you to be open, receptive and grateful for whatever you may be experiencing in that moment.

Thoughts you don’t want to think about can be both positive and negative in nature.

I invite you to observe your thoughts over the next while and let me know what comes up for you. The learning and growing will offer you much grace in the process.

I would love to hear from you. You are welcome to share….

As we head into the festive season….I wish you and your families a blessed and prosperous Christmas. May you experience joy and laughter as you continue to journey forward with each new day.

Sheila Unique, Trainer & Speaker

Not what it is!

April 14, 2016 By Sheila Unique 2 Comments

The first day we walked on the beach in Cuba we saw these holes in the sand. I was intrigued by these holes. To me they looked like someone with high heels was walking and their heel part went down into the sand leaving these perfectly rounded holes.

As we continued to walk along the beach I started to see these little crabs running down into these holes! Now I was intrigued by the crabs. They were so many of them.

I thought to myself…what a great analogy for life. We see something in our life and the first thing our mind wants to do is relate to it referencing something we know. Then we come to learn what things really are in relation to their nature. Wow!

This analogy can be applied to many things in our life. For example, we see someone upset about something and we start to think of all the things they could be upset about. Then we come to learn the true nature of what we witnessed around the upset.

Consider what that analogy could be for you! I know for myself, walking on the beach not only offered me moments of intrigue, walking on the beach offered another gift in how I see life. Nature so graciously helped me shift my perception!

Sheila Unique, Transformation Coach

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