peaceful moment

How do you know?

January 29, 2013 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

What are we growing towards? Consider this…we are continually growing and we are either growing towards being in a state of non-reaction/peace or towards being in a state of conflict. How do we know?

When we are bothered about something, there is conflict…it really is that simple. When we recognize there is conflict, how do we find our way to being at peace with it? People may say they don’t feel they’re bothered about anything and yet they are going in for surgery next month….or work is suggesting they go for mediation around something…or their spouse is talking about hating their job and they find it hard to listen to the same stuff every day. Those are examples of people feeling conflict coming from the body mind or spirit.

This past week, Sharon and I facilitated a telecall series on depression. I had invited my daughter to submit some things that she felt were maybe causing her to feel depressed. She thought about it and didn’t feel she had any issues so she didn’t submit any.

The very next day after the telecall series was ended…she called me. She so wonderfully asked me to help her with her kids. One of them was sick again and she just didn’t know what to do with the kids anymore. She asked why wouldn’t this sickness stuff stop already? The whole winter the kids had been sick in some way where they ended up at the doctors for something. As she talked I could just feel how depressed she was in what she was saying. I asked her if it bothers her to have her kids sick again. Of course it did! I shared with her how there was such a depressed feeling there. Once we started talking, it was like a revelation for her and she could feel it. My daughter was in a place where she didn’t ‘think’ she had any issues and got to a place where her kids were sick again causing her to ‘feel’ hopeless and depressed.

I had talked further to my daughter about what she felt depression was. She had shared how she couldn’t understand how people could sit in their depression and not do anything about it. I’m not going to share the whole conversation but we did clear around an element of control that she was working with. One of the things about depression or anything anyone around us is feeling….we can’t change anyone around us but we sure can shift what we feel inside.

I know for myself, I had felt I still had a depression type feeling around money. I didn’t feel I could create money. That feeling and more had shifted through the telecall series. I have been walking through some of my money issues with this India campaign going on right now. Yes there is conflict and the only way I know how to feel at peace inside is to take the ‘not so great’ feelings and clear whatever is causing them…leaving me in a place of feeling at peace with whatever happens.

Our day to day living brings us life stuff. When we do anything and feel conflict we can grow towards feeling at peace around whatever is causing us to feel the conflict. Those causes come from within us and that is where they will be resolved. Energy clearing is definitely one of those ways to clear conflict.

You don’t need to know all the questions to ask….or even all the answers. That’s where Sharon and I come in. One of the most important roles for you is to become more and more aware of what you are feeling. Once you feel something…it’s on its way to being healed.

We are always rewarded for our inner work.

Sheila Unique

First Thoughts?

January 3, 2013 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

January 1^st just past and I got to thinking of some ‘firsts’ for me this week…here I go.

We put a new sink in our kitchen. The sink looks great on our new counter. The FIRST time I went to do the dishes, I noticed how much more shallow the sink was compared to the sink we took out. Not only was it shallow…it was rounded at the bottom which means nothing in my sink lays flat now. Everything I put into the sink moves to the middle center. It was so different from before. My FIRST thought was who would make sinks like this? They obviously don’t do the dishes. Yes I was mad and very aware of my reaction. As I was doing the dishes I continued to think – the next thoughts had to do with taking out this new sink and putting in another new sink. That wasn’t possible at this time. I then started to think a powerless thought where I was kind of stuck with this sink now.

If I couldn’t change the sink…I worked with the next best thing that gives me peace inside…I could change how I felt about the sink. I did some energy work on how I was feeling about the sink.

Through that experience, I noticed my reactions…I noticed where I went with my thinking…I noticed a pattern in how I went to a powerless place inside myself. This was for me, for my learning and growing. I am more at peace inside myself today when it comes to my sink.

Another FIRST for me this week. The other day, I was walking at our sportsplex facility. This facility has an indoor walking track which I have been walking on for a number of days now. This one day there were some young men walking on the track. I could tell they weren’t there to exercise because they had their coats on. They were looking around the facility. When I saw them, my FIRST thought was ‘look at those guys…don’t they know there are people walking and running on the track?’ Along with my thoughts was the judgment of thinking they must be stupid or something?’ That may sound hard to hear but that was my first thought.

Along came a lady who was running in the lane those young men were walking in. As she ran around them, the lady so gently said, ‘this is a track for running’. The young men immediately realized where they were and got off the track.

Where was my learning and growing? When the lady gently said those words to the young men, I wanted to find that gentle loving place inside of myself. Where was that judgment coming from? What was causing me to think those young men were stupid. It didn’t take me long at all.

The Universe or my Divine so perfectly timed those people in my path for my own inner healing. I immediately wanted to heal the conflict inside of me. I asked to resolve this issue within me. I know there has been a shift inside. I was sure grateful for that gift of heading into the new year.

The word ‘stupid’ was one of the ‘sore spots’ for me growing up. I often heard how stupid people were. Those bothers around that word ‘stupid’ came along with me heading into adulthood. I can now choose to resolve the effects of that word. I’m working through situations in my life to help me be at peace around the word stupid. That word has presented itself many times along my journey…and I will know I am finally at peace with that word when I no longer have a charge or react to it. It’s getting easier every new day.

Sheila Unique

Depression in a new light, Part 2!

December 22, 2012 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

In part 2 of ‘depression in a new light’, I will talk more about the state of depression…giving you a different ‘light’ on day to day life stuff that can cause someone to feel depressed.

What is the state of depression all about? Some of the dictionary definitions of depression are…a depressed or sunken place or part; a hollow; a condition of general emotional dejection and withdrawal; sadness greater and more prolonged than that warranted by any objective reason; a mood disorder; the action of lowering something or pressing something down; severe, typically prolonged, feelings of despondency and dejection; self doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression. One internet site says depression is a complicated mental illness that can take the joy out of once pleasurable things and has a dramatic affect on a person’s life.

When we look at the explanation of depression…it may be safe to say we have felt depressed somewhere in our life.

Like any illness or disease, people just don’t become depressed over night! The feelings causing someone to feel depressed have been there for a while.

There was an amazing post on facebook the other day, ‘Depression, anxiety and panic attacks are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of having to stand strong for too long.’ How many people in your life have ‘fought’ the battle too long? You may be one of them. People stand so strong – energetically – holding things together – being the strong one….and one day their world falls apart. Where is the strength or the strong in them at that time?

Medically they say depression has to do with a chemical imbalance in the brain. That is a ‘physical’ explanation. We aren’t just physical beings. We have a body mind and a spirit – you can’t function one without the other. They all work together. The non-physical part of you is your mind and your spirit which play a huge part in what causes depression. Your mind has to do with thoughts and emotions; your spirit has to do with being at rest or unrest! What you are feeling can’t be seen ‘physically’. You can’t look at your arm and say, ‘oh there is my depression, I’ll just take it off my arm and I’m done with it.’

I’m always talking about how our bodies are messengers for us – giving us messages. When it comes to depression, the imbalance in the brain, what message is the brain giving the person with depression?

When did the depression start? What was going on in that person’s life at the time? Let’s look at the different aspects of our day to day life to see where an imbalance can show up.

A person is in a long term marriage or relationship. All of a sudden the partner leaves unexpectedly! Would that cause an imbalance in the family dynamics taking the joy out of life?

A person has been dedicated to their job for so long, putting in many hours, leading many teams and all of a sudden they are asked to move on or leave the company. Would that cause an imbalance where a person would or wouldn’t fit into life now?

People can have imbalances in their finances – lose a house or an investment; imbalance in their relationships – the feelings in their ‘heart’ so to speak; imbalance within themselves – everyone is out to get them or everything falls back on them. People can have a physical body trauma happen causing an emotional breakdown – for example, breaking a leg and not being able to teach dancing or not getting to exercise for a long period of time. Would that cause an imbalance? Any one of these everyday life mishaps can cause someone to become depressed. Why is it some people do into deep depression and some people don’t? How is the imbalance serving them?

People move through all kinds of challenges in their life…someone who is depressed is ‘moving through the expression of depression as part of their journey. In the movement, they will experience ‘healing’ within.

The imbalance may be physically represented in the brain…but the imbalance stems from the imbalance in the MIND! The mind is very powerful and will put someone at unrest in no time. There are a number of elements that come into play when it comes to working with a depressed person. A shift in perception is one of them.

Depressed people don’t get up in the morning and think about how they can be depressed all day. They are ‘moving through’ whatever this depression is bringing them to deal with. The depression can bring them isolation…can challenge them on all their belief systems…can close the door on some relationships and open the door on other relationships. Depression, like other sicknesses, illnesses or pains of some kind can also be used to manipulate others to get what they want. All of these are examples of the kind of healing that can take place inside of someone. They are experiencing life through the emotional state of depression.

Sometimes people have to hit ‘rock bottom’ in the moving forward process. Put another way, they have to let go of the fight and the battle that they have been fighting for so long! One example of this could be the fight and battle around keeping ‘up their appearances.’ When someone finally can’t keep up the appearance of always being the strong one…it could be pretty hard to let that appearance go. For so long, their feelings could have been buried deep down inside…do we really know what they are feeling?

Now go back to the role we play in a depressed person’s life…ask them ‘how they feel’ about whatever they are saying. When they answer, don’t have any judgement at all. Their feelings are about them and how they feel NOT ABOUT YOU. Even if they say it’s because of you, don’t ‘buy into it.’ Keep moving the conversation forward asking them questions about what makes them feel the way they feel. Again, this is about them and how they feel. They will tend to blame everything around them at first…and that is very normal. That will be their perception of the reality of what they feel has taken place in their life. There are many influences causing people to feel what they feel. Eventually it will be inside where they find their answers. That is where the movement with questions can help them to ‘heal through their depression’ and see life in a new light!

Sheila Unique

Depression in a new light Part 1

December 5, 2012 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

Over these last couple of weeks, I am hearing about many people in a depressed state. Are there any people in your life going through a phase where they feel depressed or emotionally unstable right now? Have you tried to help them OUT OF their situation? Has it worked?

One of my older sisters is experiencing depression right now. Over the last couple of months I stepped forward to help her, doing some energy work and suggesting a couple of things I felt may help. She is still struggling with depression. I started to look at her as a messenger. There was more to this situation than I first thought. What was the message for me?

Every interaction with my older sister offered me the opportunity to heal something inside of myself. At first I was ‘super woman/super healer’ in some way and tried everything I thought I could do, or suggest, to help her on her journey. Some of what I suggested was welcomed and some was not. I stepped back and made the decision to leave everything up to the Divine. The Divine would take way better care of my sister than I could. I noticed how I got to the place where I could accept her for who she is and what she is going through without needing to change or fix her. Was it easy…not at all! The learning, growing and releasing was immeasurable.

As part 1 of ‘depression in a new light’, I share these words speaking from the point of view of our role in the lives of those around us.

How many times do we try to help others get out of their challenging relationships or situations and they just keep doing what they’re doing? How does it make us feel? What bothers us about the challenges they are experiencing? Is it about changing and fixing the other person so we feel better? Is it about being with what we are feeling in any moment?

Do we really know what will make the other person better? As much as we try to influence someone, we can’t change them. They have to make the change themselves. That change will come at the ‘best time’ for them for their learning and growing. We don’t know what the Divine has intended for another person which can be very freeing for us. Sometimes that freedom doesn’t feel so comforting.

With the people around us who are experiencing depression in some way, our role can be as simple as thanking the Divine for taking care of them. We can love those people for who they are and honour the choices they are making, even if it’s not the choice we would make. Their journey is about them and our journey is about us.

There was an amazing saying on the Oneness University Facebook page, ‘If you wanted to change someone else, try changing yourself and you will know what it takes for a change. Sri Amma Bhagavan.’

I invite you to consider our reactions are about us and how we feel, not about changing or fixing others. If we are reacting, we are not at peace with something inside of ourselves. When we become aware of our reactions, we are offered the opportunity to go inside and see what is there for us to grow through. It’s inside of us where the change takes place…and it’s outside of us which reflects the changes we have made. There is perfection in every moment.

In part 2 of ‘depression in a new light’, I will talk more about the state of depression…giving you a different ‘light’ on what can cause someone to feel depressed and how our energy plays a part.

Sheila Unique

« Previous Page

Subscribe to my Posts Via Email