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Find Your Way to Loving Yourself

July 25, 2022 By Sheila Unique

My friend Marlene (not her real name) was struggling at work. She was upset because of what a co-worker had said to her. After that Marlene found it difficult to be in the same room as the co-worker. One day Marlene and a couple of other co-workers were involved in a conversation about that one co-worker. During the conversation Marlene felt like they were what she called gossiping and chose to leave the conversation. As she walked away she started to feel bad to the point where she said she hated herself for saying anything.

Marlene shared this story in our session together. She didn’t want to hate herself and wanted to find her way to loving herself. In that moment, we celebrated two things…how she was aware of no longer wanting to participate in the conversation and for hating herself. I guided her to recognize that by being aware she was already experiencing love for herself.

How do you move from self hate to self love?

The moment of being aware is the moment you can make a new choice if needed. Why? Because if you don’t feel good about something, the creator is ‘highlighting’ it for you to observe what’s going on inside and outside of you. The first thing that happens is you begin judging yourself for what you’ve done. This then leads to all kinds of negative feelings including self hate. Living everyday is about awareness. That awareness includes feelings and when you feel those feelings, you’re on your way to healing whatever it is.

It’s the love from the creator that shines the light on what you’re experiencing. Noticing it indicates you love yourself enough to reveal whatever it is to yourself giving you an opportunity to heal and resolve any unrest related to the experience.

How powerful is this? Marlene had healed past the self hate and moved through her experience with that co-worker. She let me know that their relationship was very different. She now has no problem being in their presence.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Renovator, Medical Intuitive

Power in Self Awareness

November 29, 2018 By Sheila Unique

Self awareness is about being aware of what’s going on inside of you…in relation to anything and everything outside of you. So much can be revealed to you when you look inside yourself.

Self awareness gives you a richness beyond measure. Why? If you have any upset, any unrest inside of you, it takes self awareness to heal and resolve it.

I was privileged to learn from an amazing Avatar in India. Sri Bhagavan is the founder of the Oneness Temple and University in India. Sri Bhagavan taught, ‘everything begins and ends with awareness.’ The more I grow in awareness the more I come to learn the truth in that statement.

Each new day brings you experiences to learn and grow through. Allow me to share one such experience….

About a month ago my email account was ‘hacked.’ I received a spam message from my own email address. Receiving that message was quite disturbing.

At the time, I called the gentleman who usually helps me with problems when it comes to computer viruses and things. He told me to just delete the spam message and not to worry about it. I deleted the message.

These same spam messages continued to show up twice a week. I first blocked them and then deleted them. That was working okay until I returned from my retreat in Hawaii.

Messages went from two times a week to twice a day. Then one morning, I opened up my email account. There were 3 of the same spam messages.

Something about all those messages bothered me. I knew I had ‘unrest’ inside. Physically, I could feel this pressure and pain type sensation in my chest. Mentally, all I could think about was how powerless I was to make those messages stop. Emotionally, I was upset because I couldn’t control what was happening. In no time, I just cried. I asked my Divine to help me resolve the issue.

Self awareness is about noticing what’s going on inside of you…in relation to what’s happening outside of you. Whenever you experience unrest of any kind, three things will happen:

Physically, you have aches or pain type sensations;
Mentally, you have negative thoughts running through your mind;
Emotionally, you get upset in some way.

Wording that another way…whenever you experience physical aches and pains, there will be negative thoughts and emotions present as well.

Another day later, I opened up my email account. I received seven of the same spam type emails. Not one or two emails. I received seven in one day!

The number of emails went from three to seven. Through growing self awareness I knew my Divine was getting my attention.

I noticed things had changed from the day before. The day before I looked at three messages, felt powerless to do anything and cried. That day I saw the seven messages and no longer did I feel dis-empowered! Something had shifted inside me. I now felt empowered to take action.

The first thing I did was call my email provider. I asked if they could do anything to stop these spam messages. They said no. They said I just needed to block and delete them. Eventually the messages will stop.’

I know I have now healed and resolved the unrest I was feeling. I no longer react like I did before. I also observed it has been over a week since I received my last spam message. My Divine put this experience in my path to help me learn and grow. Having self awareness makes all the difference!

Being aware of yourself, allows you to recognize the changes that take place inside of you. You notice times you are upset and reacting. You then notice times where you no longer react like you did before. Things outside of you transform. Having greater awareness leaves you in the most empowering place when it comes to you and your own life.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

Hardest Thing You Have to Deal With!

October 24, 2018 By Sheila Unique

What comes to your mind when you think of the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with? Maybe you think of a difficult relationship breakup. Maybe you think of dealing with the loss of a loved one. Maybe your thoughts take you back to the time when you were writing exams for a university class. Have you ever thought what made that time the hardest thing you’ve ever dealt with?

Everything you ‘walk through’ in life takes one step at a time, one day at a time. Whether you are walking through a financial or a health crisis of some kind, each new day gives you another opportunity to learn and grow.

Every step is filled with experiences. Some of the experiences are pleasant to move through. Some of the experiences are hard to deal with.

This past month, I have been focused on finishing my new book.

I was writing the section on the mental body. The mental body is all about your mind and your thoughts. I got to a place where I was really struggling to stay focused on my writing. I had all kinds of thoughts running through my head that day. Thoughts related to ‘other things’ I should be doing in my business, other than finishing my book.

On one of my trips to the washroom, I caught myself thinking how hard it was for me to stay focused on my writing. I thought staying focused on my writing was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with! I continued to think if only I could get through all this writing then things would get easier for me! At this point, I started to pay attention to what those thoughts were really about.

Throughout my writing, I’ve had all kinds of thoughts associated with feeling bad for doing something I truly love to do. My thoughts tried to make me feel guilty because I wasn’t out getting clients and earning more money. You have no idea how my mind continually tried to jump in with thoughts causing me to feel like I was wasting my time writing.

Was staying focused on my writing really the hardest thing I’ve had to deal with? The answer was no!

That day I had greater awareness of what the mind was trying to do! Staying focused on my writing was the easy part. Not getting caught up in all the thoughts running through my head was the hard part!

The hardest thing you have to deal with is your mind! The hardest thing you have to deal with is letting your thoughts freely enter and leave your head without engaging in the thoughts! This is not as easy as it appears.

You may think the hardest thing you have to deal with is getting through the issues you struggle with now. Issues like getting through the divorce and things will be better. Issues like losing weight and people will treat you nicer. Issues like changing jobs and you won’t have to deal with difficult people anymore. Those issues can be hard. I’m not downplaying the difficulty! What makes your issues hard to deal with?

As you move through your issues, do you tend to have positive uplifting thoughts as to how you can best move through your issues? Or would you tend to hear negative unsupportive thoughts running through your head? Does your mind allow you to be at peace with what you’ve done? Or does your mind keep reminding you of how things in the past didn’t work out and what you’re doing won’t work anyway?

Some days it’s pretty easy to turn off those negative thoughts. Then there are other days where no matter what you do, the negative thoughts just take over!

The mind continually tries to get you to think you need to be somewhere other than where you are in that moment! The mind wants you to think what you are doing in the moment is not as important as all the other things you should be doing instead! For example, if you get this done, then everything will fall into place so much easier. If you get that done, then your family will love you even more. If you finish this first, then you can afford that. There is no end to the kinds of things your mind wants you to believe.

How do you deal with the thoughts that run through the mind?

The most important thing you can do is start paying attention to the kinds of thoughts you get caught up in! That truly is the most important thing you can do for your Self. Why?

There is purpose in the thoughts you have. Thoughts come and go all day long. Many thoughts just zoom on by. If you get caught up in any of the thoughts, those thoughts are worth paying attention to. Paying attention to those thoughts leads you to the unrest associated with those thoughts. It is the unrest inside of you which causes certain negative unsupportive thoughts to continually surface. When you resolve that unrest, those certain negative thoughts will literally disappear. Imagine how that could make a difference in your life!

The mind will always have something more to think about and more you can do. The mind will always have comments and judgments. The mind will also continue to repeat certain thoughts just so you can get caught up in them.

You will only get caught up in thoughts which have caused you some kind of unrest inside of your Self. Becoming aware of the thoughts which cause you unrest leads you to a place of healing and resolution. Once you heal and resolve that unrest, you no longer get caught up in those thoughts. Those thoughts literally transform and disappear.

For me personally, being aware of my mind does not mean I won’t ever have negative unsupportive thoughts. Being aware allows me to consciously pay attention to the kinds of thoughts I get caught up in. It’s those thoughts which guide me forward to heal and resolve any ‘unrest’ I’m feeling inside.

I truly have experienced the transformation I talk about. Each new day I experience more and more inner peace with this approach.

Everything you ‘walk through’ in life, whether easy or hard, takes one step at a time. Each step is filled with experiences. Those experiences are accompanied with thoughts of all kinds. Becoming more and more aware of your thoughts is part of the learning and growing process.

You are always rewarded for doing your inner work.

There is so much more to share about the mind! I’m looking forward to sharing my new book with you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

Why You Don’t Have to Forgive Them!

October 2, 2018 By Sheila Unique

Somebody did something to you and you can’t forgive them for it. No matter how hard you’ve tried you just can’t bring yourself to the place of forgiving that person. Do you really need to forgive them?

What I share in this article can be applied to move through any unrest you may be experiencing in your life right now.

This unrest can be about any relationship from your past. Past relationships can include people like an abusive ex-spouse, a boss you never liked, even someone who did your family wrong.

Think of your life right now. Is there someone who upsets you to think about them? Let’s say for years now you’ve wanted to forgive this person for something they did to you. Talking to that person didn’t help. Trying to get another person to talk with them didn’t work. Even going for counseling didn’t help. Every time you see or think of that person you still feel upset about what they did to you. What do you actually need to do in order to feel at peace inside yourself?

Feeling upset is a reaction. Reactions surface indicating there is ‘unrest’ inside of you. Unrest is a word I use to encompass the world of reactions. The word unrest is far easier to work with rather than working with words like anger or depression for example. When the unrest you feel inside is healed and resolved you immediately experience amazing changes inside and outside of you.

So let’s look at the unrest.

Imagine what it feels like to carry unrest with you for years and years. The unrest includes all the negative thoughts and emotions along the way. The unrest impacts your physical body. Imagine how that unrest influenced everything in your life.

Every time you are reminded of that upsetting relationship unsupportive thoughts and emotions surface. Every time there is some kind of event that may involve that person you would already be thinking if you will or won’t be there. Over time other people in your life would start getting upset with you because you can’t seem to let your unrest go. Then you get to a place where you don’t even feel safe to be around those other people because they don’t understand you. That is a lot of unrest to carry with you!

If that is you, think about things you’ve tried in order to feel better about that relationship. You’ve probably tried to mentally forget what happened. Maybe you’ve even tried to forgive them. Yet today when you think about that relationship you still feel unrest inside. Forgiving that person may not be what you need to do now.

It is an illusion to think if you only forgive that person than everything in your life will turn around and you will feel much better. That is so not true!

Over the years of carrying unrest inside, you eventually lose sight of what you really need in order to heal and resolve your unrest.

You may be at a place on your journey where you find it difficult to be around anyone. You may be finding it hard to open new relationships. You may even be upset with yourself because you can’t change how you feel about that relationship. This stuff is real!

At this phase of your life, the first thing you may need to do is forgive yourself for not being able to let that unrest go.

Consider this, how do you know the unrest you are feeling today has to do with that past upsetting relationship?

The same unrest you feel inside may be the same unrest you feel when you think of a co-worker who is a little abusive at work. The unrest you feel now may be the same unrest you feel when you try to make plans with your friend and your friend ends up cancelling on you over and over again. That unrest may be the same unrest you feel when you are declined a credit card or rejected on a loan application.

What is the unrest you feel inside? Is that unrest really only about the person you are trying to forgive?

The following steps guide you to a place of resolving any unrest you feel inside. Think about an upsetting relationship.

Think about what the other person did. Really connect with what they did to you.
Now take your attention off of what the other person did. Gently move your awareness to what’s going on inside of you.
There may be thoughts running through your head that make you angry; you may feel emotions causing your body to get hot.
Staying with what’s going on inside of you, become aware of where you are feeling any sensations in your physical body right now. Sensations can be very subtle showing up as tension, aches or even pain.
The sensations you feel is the unrest! When the feeling of unrest is dissolved to nothing a peaceful feeling takes over.

Remember the unrest is an accumulation of emotions over all the years. You do not need to know what those emotions are. The most important thing when healing any unrest is awareness.

It has been my experience when you resolve the unrest you feel about another person every relationship literally changes around you. Why? Every relationship changes because the shifts you made took place inside of you. It is inside of you where the transformation happened.

You now have more empowering thoughts. You now respond differently to people. You no longer get caught up in conflict like you did before. Your physical body starts to heal. People now interact differently with you.

You now experience those changes because the unrest is dissolved to nothing. Your reality changes! You experience things like the co-worker who was abusive either disappears from your life or they treat you more respectfully. Your relationships with your friends instantly change. You start to see your own truth of what is taking place in all relationships.

Yes, resolving unrest is that powerful…and empowering.

Maybe you think time shifts your experiences. It doesn’t. You shifting is what creates healing and resolution inside of you. You shifting is what creates all the changes you want in your life.

Most people need help with those shifts because we can’t see our own blind spots. I’m here to help! You are that important to me!

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

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