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Everyday life problems happen in relationships. Sometimes those problems escalate into heated arguments which leave you in a place of feeling quite unsettled. How do your relationships change so you experience more positive interactions with the people you care about?

Have you ever watched people arguing over what seems like a trivial matter? You’re watching and maybe think what’s the big deal, just forget about it and move on. This is not uncommon at all. It can be pretty easy to think things like that when you’re ‘detached’ from the situation.

Now think of a close relationship where you have a heated argument with another person. Would you find it easy to step back, just forget about it and move on? Chances are you would leave the argument feeling emotional. I know, I’ve been there. We’re emotionally involved and leave the argument thinking all kinds of negative thoughts related to what we were arguing about. It doesn’t feel good to me and I’m sure it doesn’t feel good to you.

Bringing about healing in your relationships begins inside of you and here is a great place to start.

I’ve been doing this visualization practice for months now and after telling a number of my clients they asked me to share it. This practice takes place at a ‘Soul’ level and involves cutting negative energetic cords. I learned it from Sri Sadguru Sivapremanandaji – Power of Forgiveness Exercise. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQ0EoZksqYE In the video he explains energy cords. When situations continue to repeat themselves, what happens is the negative energetic cords between you and the other person become “thicker and more problematic.” Those cords drain your energy and can be disconnected and dissolved. This is important to know regardless of the relationship.

Sri Sivapremanandaji shares these steps:

Visualize your own Soul above you;
Visualize the Soul of (the other person) sitting across from your Soul;
Say, I ask my Soul to forgive (the other person) for any hurts or any energy infractions between me and (the other person) in this life or past lives;
Say, I ask my Higher Self to convey this forgiveness to (the other person) and disconnect/dissolve any and all negative energetic cords between me and (the other person);
Say, So be it;
Say, I’m thankful to my Soul and the Soul of (the other person);
Say, I pray to my Soul to send blessings and healing to (the other person) now.
(The other person can be your parents, friends, co-workers, children, etc….just insert their names above).

This practice takes less than 2-3 minutes to do and can be used for any relationship. You can continue to do it until there is no negativity between you and the other person.

When you have negative interactions with another person and feel unsettled inside, you’re invited to try this practice. I’d love to hear what it does to bring about healing in your relationships. It starts from inside of you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Coach and Spiritual Teacher

Do you find you’re constantly fighting with those you love? Doesn’t matter what you say conversations end in arguments. How would you even know if healing is taking place?

Let’s start by looking at something we’re more familiar with. Healing the physical body can be easier to relate to because most of the time you can physically see and feel the difference. For example, think of burning yourself on the stove or a hot pan. Instantly your body reacts and there’s a red mark or blister on your skin that burns like heck. You do what you can to relieve the pain and heal from the burn. Depending on the severity of the burn, there can be times when the burn won’t heal. The redness and sensitivity continue to draw your attention to that spot where you burned yourself.

Healing in relationships follows the same concept. A verbal fight breaks out and instantly you’re reacting to the point you feel the hurt inside. You either do what you can to work with your reactions or that hurt continues to fester inside. Thoughts and emotions continue to draw your attention to the fight that surfaced.

I’m often asked how you know your relationships are healing. You will know through the changes in your reactions. This is the most important part of healing. Both physically and in relationships there are reactions that surface from inside. It will also be on the inside that the reaction changes and healing takes place. It has been my experience when we heal within, all our relationships change for the better. I’ll explain this even further when I talk about the three fields of energy in my next article.

There are times when healing takes place quickly and also times when reactions don’t seem to change. With any kind of healing work there are changes in your reactions even if they’re subtle in nature. For example, let’s say you find you lose your patience instantly and snap at your partner when they tell you what to do. You work on healing around losing your patience. The next time your partner tells you what to do, you find you can actually listen to them for a few minutes longer before beginning to lose your patience. If you continue to work on healing around losing your patience you will actually get to the point where you no longer lose your patience. It’s that powerful.

It’s important to look inside yourself for the healing to take place. Changes happen within before the changes are observed outside of you. One thing for sure is your awareness is needed to be able to recognize what’s going on inside in relation to what’s happening outside of you.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you’ll always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Coach and Spiritual Teacher

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