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Inappropriate Reactions

February 12, 2021 By Sheila Unique

Think back to the last time you reacted inappropriately. This could be anything. Yelling at the kids. Closing down and not saying what you need to say. Telling a person off for something you don’t approve of . It’s important to know it doesn’t matter ‘what’ you did. What matters is being aware of what’s going on inside of you.

A couple of weeks ago my husband was dealing with sinus problems. After a number of days, I decided to peek in one of my reference books to see what sinuses were about. It stated a ‘deep resentment with a close relationship.’ I shared that with him encouraging him to think about it. He said he would and headed out the door for the morning. It didn’t take long for me to start thinking about the possibility of me being that close relationship. What did I do that he would be resenting me? After the third or fourth thought like that I became very aware of what I was doing. I was questioning myself and looking for something that wasn’t even real in that moment! I kid you not. I was reacting inappropriately and as soon as I was aware of that I could do something to stop it or change it. I didn’t want to be questioning myself like that no more and immediately sat down and did a healing process for myself.

This is why it’s so important to become aware of what’s going on inside of you. When you’re reacting, what thoughts are you having? What emotions are surfacing? Are any sensations surfacing in your body? All of that is taking place inside of you.

You can’t change how you’ve reacted. You can grow because of it. I couldn’t change the fact that I was questioning myself in that moment, nor would I want to. Questioning myself helped me to become aware of a reaction type pattern I had related to something I do when I think something happens because of me. I’ve now consciously experienced how that doesn’t feel good inside of me. I no longer want to think that way.

“Your problems start outside of you and your problems will end up being resolved inside.” (quote from the new book)

Now when my husband got home, he brought up the conversation about resentment. He got to the place where he had become aware of some things he had done years ago that he hadn’t resolved yet. What was amazing was the process he went through to get to that place of healing it inside. By later afternoon he started to experience a change in his sinuses.

I shared this example because something was happening ‘outside’ of me causing me to react ‘inside.’ I observed how the resentment wasn’t even about me. I was very grateful for this experience because it once again helped me to learn and grow.

In a world where you’re so focused outside of yourself, it’s not common to pay attention to what’s going on inside. Your thoughts can give you clues as to different things you may or may not believe about yourself. If what you believe is causing unrest inside, it will be through growing awareness that you can make a change.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Renovator

Messages Behind Thoughts!

July 25, 2019 By Sheila Unique

Are you dealing with a problem you can’t seem to get out of your mind? You have all kinds of thoughts running through your mind. Have you ever really listened to the messages behind your thoughts?

Recently, my mom was in a serious car accident. It was a miracle she only had broken bones and major bruising. Time blessed mom with much healing and grace. She is back to moving along like she did before.

Mom’s car was totalled in the accident leaving her without a car. The insurance company requested she have a driving test. Mom made a decision to not buy another car until she completes this driving test.

Because mom doesn’t have a car, she has been asking family members to driver her around. I’ve had my turn at doing the driving. One day, I received a text from my older sister. My older sister had a few suggestions for me. She suggested I take mom for driver training lessons and let mom use my car for her road test. I read the text. Something wasn’t sitting well with me. The more I thought about the text, the more agitated I got. To me, there was a problem!

I didn’t quite know what the problem was. I did know I couldn’t get thoughts about this situation, out of my mind. I was aware of the agitation I felt. The agitation helped me to recognize I had unrest inside of me! That was when I started really paying attention to my thoughts.

I thought about taking mom for driving lessons and noticed a ‘fight’ going on inside of me! I thought about mom using my car for her road test and had a ‘fight’ going on inside of me. Fighting with my Self didn’t stop. Just when I thought I resolved one fight, another thought and fight started again. What was all this fighting about?

Thought after thought made things very clear for me. Somehow I felt powerless! I felt powerless to choose! Wow…I really felt that inside of me. Physically, I felt sluggish and defeated. I was totally aware of feeling like I had no power to choose! The interesting thing about this awareness was I started recognizing this powerless feeling more often than I wanted to admit! I started recognizing the inner fight more often than I wanted to admit. No wonder I had unrest. A deep pattern of mine surfaced to be healed and resolved.

Awareness is power! You can only work with what you are aware of!

Now, I am conscious of my power to choose because I was aware of feeling powerless. I’m consciously aware of the fighting inside. Now, I have the power to stop the inner fighting and make a new choice.

Something from outside of me innocently woke up something from inside. I started thinking which caused me to get emotional and feel agitated. The agitation guided me to the unrest inside. The more I stayed with the unrest, the more I grew in awareness. I grew to be aware of what was going on inside of me. The unrest dissolved to nothing and was gone.

With this new found power to choose, I started experiencing life very differently. The patterns changed. I actually sent my sister a reply text. I let her know I chose to stand back and give control to mom. With my mom, I chose to phone her and give her the phone number of a car rental agency. If she rented a car, she could drive anytime and anywhere she wanted. She could practice her driving and would even have a car for her road test. I experienced a sense of feeling rest inside of me.

If you are experiencing problems in your life, honor that in yourself. The problems offer you an opportunity to learn and grow. When you struggle, what are the messages behind your thoughts? When you have conflict, what are the messages behind your thoughts?

Behind your thoughts are subtle messages. Those subtle messages cause you to feel disempowered in some way. Maybe you feel you don’t have a choice. Maybe you feel someone has more power over you. Maybe you feel you won’t make the right decision. Those subtle messages lead you to the unrest in that moment of time. When you heal and resolve the unrest, your whole life literally changes from that day forward.

You feel empowered! You have the power to stand in your own power of choice. You can choose what feels right to you. If you make a choice which no longer feels right, you have the power to make another choice. You have the power to make another choice when you are aware of what’s going on inside of you.

Remember, this is about feeling empowered as you grow in awareness. You are growing to be aware of what’s going on inside, in relation to what’s going on outside of you. Without awareness, the struggle and conflict continue. There is learning and growing through each experience in life.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Energetic Intuitive!

Damage from Anger

November 18, 2015 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

I’ve been very privileged to coach some young teenagers. These young teenagers are having trouble making sense of what they are feeling. They get mad and express their anger. Not only that, these teenagers are turning their anger in on themselves because they don’t know how to change what they are feeling.

One young teenager I was talking with was upset and angry. While angry this teenager acted out damaging things and causing some hardship to others. In our coaching session this teenager started to recognize where some of the anger was coming from. They could feel the emotions expressed through their physical body. They could piece together events in their life causing them to get upset. There was greater awareness to work with.

At the end of the session I talked with the teenager about life lessons. I shared how they will experience things in life which are difficult. Those difficult experiences offer them life lessons to help them grow. What could be learned from their experience? What might the Universe be trying to teach them?

I invited the teenager to see the life lesson of how uncontrollable anger can potentially hurt people, cause damage and hardship. They experienced what that felt like for them. Now they are getting a sense of what it feels like to move through their emotions resolving the anger inside. With that awareness they may not be acting out like they did before.

I helped the teenager see how the Universe had given them a gift. There will be potential messages with difficult situations. They can now work on being mindful of the dynamics that take place when emotions start to surface in their life.

I personally feel when it comes to everyday living, feelings and emotions are not something to be taken lightly. People become very vocal when they are frustrated and angry. What causes people to feel what they are feeling? How can people resolve the unrest inside resulting in experiencing a more fulfilling purposeful life?

Sheila Unique, The Relationship Coach

Powerful Messages in our Observations

May 28, 2015 By Sheila Unique Leave a Comment

As we go about our day to day life we interact with so many different people. At times we enjoy the people around us. They make us laugh; they compliment things we do; they seem to have the right words we need to hear to get through challenges. If we had our choice, we would want them to always be enjoyable to be around. As you know….life isn’t always like that!

At other times, we may not want to be around those same people! Have you experienced that in your life? Maybe they raise their voice or cut us off in conversations making us mad; maybe we think they expect us to work longer hours without extra pay and we go home feeling drained; maybe they don’t respect what we do for them or they treat us in an unkind/abusive manner and we feel worthless. Things like that may not feel good inside. It’s not about changing and fixing so we don’t feel feelings! How can we shift our perception where we start to see people, things and situations in an empowering way?

In my best-selling mini book, Quick Shifts, I share how there will be times when our learning and growing comes through people who may not be pleasant to be around. They may be unkind or abusive in some way. Our learning and growing won’t be so much about what they are doing, as much as it will be about our awareness and mindfulness of what we are observing in those moments.

Empowering life lessons come from our observations of what is happening through relationships…doesn’t matter who or what. Remember, relationships are not only about people relating to people. Relationships also have to do with how we relate to the things and situations around us. We can learn a lot from the personalities of the people involved; we can learn a lot from the absence of something; we can learn a lot from the timing of when things take place.

Allow me to share a real life example of an opportunity that offers learning and growing.

Our wonderful daughter and her family were outside this past weekend enjoying the sun. Their two boys (both under the age of 4) were having trouble sharing. They were fighting over who was going to play with the toy lawn mower (it’s the lawn mower that blows out bubbles when they push it.) To keep peace in the family the parents bought another lawn mower so each child could have their own to play with.

It wasn’t long after buying the second lawn mower our daughter was shopping for something else at a different store. In the store, she went to buy one treat for the boys to share. Innocently, the older son told his mom to buy two treats so each child could have their own.

When my daughter told me this story…I marvelled at her awareness in putting those two situations together. She saw very quickly what her son was learning from those experiences. Feedback and wisdom can be so powerful for a mom as it can offer guidance.

I share this example to show you how brilliantly the Universe orchestrates the world around us. We don’t have a ‘how to’ manual in life. We do have the awareness and guidance from the Universe giving us ‘snap shots’ from different experiences helping us to learn and grow along our journey.

When we engage in life…life happens. We do not need effort to make this happen….life just happens. Our lessons show up…our learning takes place. Awareness plays an important part in all of that.

There will be times when things happen and we don’t feel good about them. We act on them as best we can in that moment. If there is a lesson or learning in those moments, we will be shown through relationships around us. Our lessons come about in many ways…ways we may not even be aware of yet. Personalities, things and timing help us piece together life lessons.

What I would like to add…when we have awareness there is nothing to change! Awareness allows us as the observer, to see what is there. Then we move forward with that awareness. That is the most empowering place to be in. No longer are we focused on changing and fixing people, things or situations. We grow to appreciate what shows up so perfectly orchestrated by the Universe around us. Then we move forward with that awareness.

When someone does something that doesn’t feel good to us…observe what they did and observe how you feel in that moment. It is in that moment of awareness…healing takes place. You are that loved and supported.

I invite you to find your own truth in that. There is no one way to live…there is only your way!

May you experience wonderment as you journey into summer!

Sheila Unique, Coach/Intuitive

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