My ten-year-old grandson was upset when he came home from school the other day. While sitting at the table, my daughter asked him what was going on. He said he was upset because one of his friends was sent home from school because of Covid related issues and he worried about her. He kept saying he didn’t know what to feel, he didn’t know what to feel. My daughter sat down with him and told him he didn’t need to know. He only needed to feel his feelings. Without questioning anything, she listened to him talk about a bunch of stuff and he eventually got to a place where the emotion moved through. He calmly said he worried about his friend and he could say a prayer for her. That helped him to feel more at peace inside.
If children are guided to just feel what they’re feeling, they tend to move through their emotions easier because they don’t get caught up in analyzing why they feel or what they’re feeling.
It has been my experience that we as adults tend to get caught up in thinking which involves analyzing the situation and questioning why things did or didn’t happen. To do that only prevents you from truly feeling your emotions.
Why would you want to feel your emotions? Consider this example. I used to get so upset when people would yell, especially when my dad yelled at mom. My upper back would tighten up whenever I heard someone yelling at another person. I went through a number of relationships and even left a relationship because he yelled at me. One day I reacted to someone yelling and knew I had enough! I went into my room and thought about the yelling. I could feel my whole back tense up which was the same reaction I had time and time again. I just stayed focused on the sensations in my body and talked to my Divine about healing and resolving the unrest related to the yelling. Within minutes the sensations were gone. I have not reacted like that and no longer feel any sensations in my back when someone yells.
This is what you need to hear…
It didn’t matter who was involved when it came to yelling. I reacted. Overtime, the relationships changed but the reaction continued to stay the same. It’s the reactions, the feelings that stay with you regardless of who is involved. It is the FEELINGS you want to heal and resolve bringing about change in your life.
If you continually deal with an issue, every time it surfaces you are presented with an opportunity to heal and resolve whatever it is. Imagine what that would feel like to you…once the feelings have moved through and you no longer react like you did before. You’re invited to experience what that could be for you.
Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.
Sheila Unique, Relationship Renovator
