As we become more and more aware of what we are feeling inside, our world transforms in more wonderful ways than we know.
When we look in the mirror, we see the physical reflection of our Self. If we want to make any changes, we make the changes and the mirror reflects back the changes made. For example, if we see that our makeup is smeared, we wipe off the smear; if we see our earring is coming out, we push the earring back in; if we see that we spilled some sauce on our shirt, we wipe the sauce off. We don’t look to the mirror to make those changes or put another way…the mirror does not make the changes we want. Once we physically make the change, as we look into the mirror again the change is reflected back to us.
Knowing that…consider this analogy of the mirror when it comes to living day to day…if we want to make any changes with what we see in any area of our life…it would be like looking in the mirror. If something is ‘off’, we would be the ones to make the ‘change.’ The relationships around us reflect back that ‘change.’
How would we know we need to make a change? What would need to change? Well…think about this…you don’t like how someone is treating you…you hate when people talk to you in a condescending way…you don’t like when your spouse stays longer at a party than you do…would those be something you would like changed? Do you like feeling that way?
Going a little further with that question…if you don’t like how someone is treating you…you have two options to work with…you can get them to change where they no longer do what they are doing…or you can look inside yourself for the change. Using the analogy of the mirror…you can get the other person to stop treating you that way – which from my experience has not always worked..…or you can do it yourself…when I say do it yourself…I’m referring to how you go inside yourself to resolve whatever is bothering you about whatever the person is or isn’t doing. Once you deal with the bothersome feelings inside yourself…the changes are reflected back to you.
How will the change be reflected back to you? People who talked to you in a condescending way may not change themselves, and they may be less and less present around you…even could gradually disappear from your life…or if they still talk to you like that…you will not react like you used to…in other words you will not have a charge come up when they do. Those would be absolute signs of resolving those issues within yourself…reflecting the changes on the outside of you. You see it’s not a bad thing when people who bother you disappear from your life or even become less involved in your life. Those people are a part of your journey to help you learn and grow…once your learning is complete in some way…they may move on to allow for the next messenger to show up to help you learn something new.
Many times the change we are looking for from the ‘mirrored image’ outside of us…well we tend to want those mirrored images to change rather than we change. It is not a difficult thing to change…when we can change with a purposeful intent. When I say purposeful, I mean for example, I recognize something is bothering me and I want to resolve it within myself. For everyone of us…those changes may be as simple as bringing something to our conscious mind…leaving us in a place of being aware of what we are feeling. That awareness would not be to physically change something about our self because nothing needs to change. That awareness would be to recognize what we are actually feeling. When we connect to the feelings that surface at times…like those times when we are reacting or feeling unrest…the healing has already begun.
We are the ones to make the change…the changes takes place inside. This change is reflected back through the relationships around us.
Sheila Unique
