What…a new way to look at the concept of mirroring?

Recently I had a client who I’ll call Martha.  Martha was expressing how someone told her what she saw outside of her was what she had inside of her.  That upset her and she wanted to know how to deal with that.

I started out by referencing the concept of mirroring.  The concept of what you see in others you have in yourself!  For example, if you see a number of people around you who are angry those people are mirroring back you are angry inside.  Martha had some people in her life she didn’t get along with.  She couldn’t understand how she was like them and asked for clarification on how to even work with that.

It was a very enlightening experience bringing thru some interesting information.  I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this.

Every day in your life you see many personality types and different behaviors.  You may even experience people getting emotional over things.  Watching the news can cause people to get upset about things they perceive are unjust.   In your working environment people can react to not getting a raise or not liking the extra work load.  Even shopping can subject you to situations causing you to feel uncomfortable.

Why is it you spend more time getting worked up about some negative behaviors and you’re okay with others?  How come your attention stays focused for longer periods of time on something that really bugs you?  Maybe you’re not aware of this.

With everything you see, how come there are times when you get emotionally drawn in and then there are times when you don’t?  Have you ever given that a thought?

Let’s say in one day you saw these three situations.

The first one you are grocery shopping.  You happen to be walking by another shopper who can’t find what they are looking for.  You see they are getting mad.  That other shopper happens to see a gentleman stocking the shelves.  They immediately head over there and start yelling at him for not having what they needed.

The second one you are in a meeting at work.  One of the employees you work with starts to get mad about a pending change.  They raise their voice to the place where they are yelling.

The third situation you are at home and the neighbors down the street are very angry and are yelling at each other.

All three situations have to do with someone getting mad and yelling.  If you used the concept of mirroring, the situations would mirror back there is anger inside you to the point you could yell.  Could that be true for you?

Personally I feel it’s not about mirroring something back to you.  It’s about being aware of your reactions inside in relation to what is taking place outside of you!

If you see someone angry and you can be okay with what’s taking place, there is no reaction.  Having no reaction at all is a sign you are okay with whatever is taking place.  Let me point out this is not about caring and not caring.

Now if you see someone angry and you start to get all worked up, you are reacting! Reacting is a sign to pay attention.  In that moment of reacting notice the dynamics taking place.  What’s going on for you?

It is far more important to be aware of what’s going on inside of you in relation to what is going on outside of you.  In other words, regardless of what you are seeing and the number of times you are seeing it, how you feel on the inside is most important for your own healing.  If you get ‘lost’ in the whole mirroring thing focusing on what others are doing….that takes you away from what you are feeling!  Staying with your feelings is where you will experience change.

Through my many years of working with people, I’ve observed the majority of people are not aware of why they are reacting in the first place!  They are not aware of the feelings they are experiencing.  Why would that be?

Let’s say you found yourself feeling stressed over the person in the grocery store who got mad and yelled at the store clerk.  What are you feeling stressed about?  It may have to do with you thinking that store clerk could be like your son and you wouldn’t like that to happen to your son.  It may have to do with you just wanting to have a nice quiet day where no one causes you stress.  You may be worked up about something totally unrelated.  You were going to ask that store clerk a question and now this other person has that clerk running in circles.  The most important thing to remember when feeling stressed is to be aware you are reacting.  From there, when you can, go inside to feel what the reaction is all about!

To look at the situation and say something is being mirrored back may not be the truth for you.  You may not see what’s mirrored back but you know you are stressed about something.  Your reactions can always lead you inside to resolve whatever you are feeling.  When you resolve what you’re feeling at that time the reaction will be done!

Are you starting to see the mirroring concept differently?  I would love to hear from you.

May you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Master Intuitive