Think of the last time you got emotionally upset because of what someone did or didn’t do. This could be anything. Maybe a fight with your spouse, an argument with your sibling or even a co-worker who didn’t get their work submitted before the deadline. Getting emotionally upset indicates you have unrest inside. There is a difference between your upset and the unrest inside.
Today marks day 13 of our self isolation. My husband worked with someone who tested positive for the Coronavirus and the whole group of workers were sent home to self isolate. We chose to do the isolation together as a team.
Throughout this isolation, I’ve continually observed how I’ve tried to use different things to distract myself from being where I am. If I’m feeling unsettled with what I’m doing, one of my first thoughts is to go out shopping or visiting which we can’t do. An agitation sets in and I find it hard to be with the unsettled feeling. Then there are times when I don’t feel like doing anything at all and my thoughts continue to remind me of all the things I could be doing. I struggle to just do ‘nothing’ and again feel an agitation set in. To me, doing nothing means just being able to sit still and not have to think about cleaning, cooking, working or even what others are or aren’t doing. Something causes me to feel agitated inside and it’s not always clear as to what that could be. Un
Let’s say you had another blow up at your spouse leaving you to feel upset for most of the day. You upset surfaced because of some kind of unrest inside of you. What you’re blowing up at and the unrest inside are two different things. For example, you’re upset because your spouse didn’t do something you asked them to do. What upset you about that? You will find your answer when you go inside yourself. Why? Underneath that upset is the unrest related to something you’re dealing with inside yourself. If you are upset because your spouse didn’t do something, you will discover what you might not be doing yourself. Maybe there is something important you’ve been putting off doing for whatever reason and the fact that you haven’t been doing it is causing you to get upset inside. Your blow up is unpleasant and can be drawing you inside yourself to offer you an opportunity to learn and grow.
Dealing with upset and dealing with unrest are two different things. Your upset is based on what’s happening outside of you. You do what you can to influence change which may or may not occur. Your unrest is based on what’s going on inside of you. It’s inside where you influence the changes you need in order to heal and resolve your unrest. When you do that, not only does your inside change but your outside changes with little effort on your part.
I invite you to take time to connect with what’s inside of you. What you think and feel…the sensations in your physical body, all of those things exist inside in relation to what’s happening outside of you. When you connect with and maintain your awareness on what’s inside, you will heal and resolve it. What does that mean? When you actually become aware of what it is inside of you that gets all charged up when people do or don’t do things, the healing takes place. Your thoughts and feelings change. How you relate with yourself and others changes. It is that powerful.
Self isolation has ‘enforced’ me to stay inside providing me an opportunity to learn things about myself. There was a difference between what I found to be agitating and what was causing the agitation in the first place. When I felt agitated, I took the time to close my eyes and allow that agitation to lead me to the unrest inside. Connecting with and becoming aware of what was there rewarded me with more inner peace and contentment making isolation much more pleasant to move through.
Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.
Sheila Unique, Relationship Renovator